Friday, February 15, 2008
WHAT TO DO WHEN HE IGNORES YOU ON VALENTINE'S DAY!
"It’s a huge surprise right now. I am hoping she surprises me too! We’ll see what happens."
My e-mail box was flooded last night with many of you asking me how to handle boyfriend's who forgot about you on Valentine’s Day.
This is a tough one to call, as there are many reasons why men don’t acknowledge you on Valentines Day. He could be rebelling, had a change of heart, not that in to you, trying to tell you something, angry about something, any number of reasons, or just plain and simply unromantic. But one thing is for certain, he didn’t forget! There is absolutely no way a guy can forget about Valentine's Day, because it's everywhere.
Please don't fall into that horrible female time waster of trying to figure out why a man does something. The bottom line, it’s not a good sign whatever his reason if it disturbed you, and a pretty good indication that he is probably not the right man for you. Plenty of men go out of their way to be romantic all year around, but especially on Valentine’s Day. Therefore, you might want to re-evaluate him, the relationship and where it’s headed and decide that you need someone more romantic and look for a more compatible mate.
This is one of those gray areas that we as women shove under the carpet or totally dismiss, citing that it is too trivial a matter to end a relationship; when in essence it is not trivial and extremely important to you. Compatibility is crucial to a relationship. As I shared with you all sometime ago, I love living high on the hog, but I married men who didn't, twice. Trivial maybe - but it's who I am and this incompatibility contributed to my extreme unhappiness in both marriages, and their feelings of inadequacy and inability to please me. Keep in mind that millions of women were neglected on Valentine's Day, and it didn't phase many of them or cause them any distress what-so-ever. They could care less. There were no arguments or no grudges harbored between them and their men yesterday. They are both happy as larks this morning.
However, for those of you who were deeply disturbed by it, that's a horse of a different color. You are still pissed off, feeling unloved, and one of many who wrote me last night. It matters to you, you are a romantic - you need to be loved romantically and when you are with an unromantic guy, this is where the problem comes in. So rather than make yourself and him miserable after discovering this blaring incompatibility, why not cut your losses and go get you one of those romantic guys, as they are just as plentiful as unromantic ones. Again, I can't stress it enough. Know who you are as a woman and as a person, what you need and must have in a man; and hold out for him! This is the only way that you can marry and stay married for a lifetime to a 'lifetime man'! Compatibility is key.
Posted by Ms. Edna at 1:36 AM