A MS. EDNA ROMANCE RULE"Don't Date
Commitment Phobic Men"
At least George Clooney admits to being a 'commitment phobe', and warns girlfriends upfront that he will never marry them. Most of these guys are not quite so honest or easily detected!
The ‘Commitment Phobic’ man will break your heart – if you are smart you will make it sooner than later. This is a ride that you don’t want to be on, as this man is DANGEROUS, because he is a selfish and seasoned heart breaker. When he breaks your heart into several pieces you will understand what I am saying (notice I said when).
A really smart woman makes it sooner, as she will hold his hand to the fire until he gives her the marriage that she wants and for which there is no reason why she can’t have it – other than he doesn’t want too. If he doesn't quickly hustle you down to the court house (you never want to plan a wedding with a commitment phobe), dump his ass and don't look back no matter how much he begs and trust me he will. If you press for marriage, he will end the relationship or stall you in some creative way.
If he ends it, unfortunately, he will be back if he is not done using you, and when he comes back he will give you everything he thinks you need to keep you, except MARRIAGE (maybe a promise to marry you but not the real deal). He always has a reason why the marriage can’t take place instantly, and you will be so overjoyed that he came back to you and fall right back under his spell. Only this time, things are different, now an element of fear has been introduced into the relationship. Fear on your part, not his, as he has sent a very clear cut message that he will break off the relationship when pressured, and next time he just may not come back!
Women who find themselves at this crossroad will usually settle for what they can get from this man and hope he will fulfill his promise or things will turn out for the best – but she will not ever again pressure him. Some women become so debilitated by this situation, they are afraid to even mention marriage. Anxiety takes over anytime they feel like they must say something to him about the relationship and where it’s going and/or any concrete plans about the wedding. One thing is for sure, the ‘commitment phobic’, will make you look like a fool to everyone who knows you!
What makes these men seem so sadistic is that they almost always seek out women who want to get married. The logical thing to do since he doesn't want to get married would be to seek out women who also don't want to get married.. I can tell you why they don't, it’s because women who don’t want to get marriage are ‘free spirited’, untamable and far less nurturing. She also doesn’t portray the stellar lifestyle that this man needs for his woman to portray to make him look good in the presence of friends and family! Now that you know all about this Rat – how do you recognize him?
He is usually past 35 years old and has never been married. Most experts say 40, I don’t give these men that much time, as it is a rare straight man, good, bad, or somewhere in between, who makes it to 35 years of age without becoming involved in a serious relationship that leads to marriage. That’s the first caution sign. Next, once involved in the relationship, he controls you by telling you how different you are from other women on issues that allows him freedom to do whatever he wants. This is reverse psychology ladies – don’t buy it! If a man does things that you don’t like – speak up, be a ‘bitch’ like the rest of us! BITCHES get married – DOORMATS rarely do!
Another, trait of these guys, he says you are the first woman he has ever really loved! BULL SHIT, it’s just a ploy to get your head where it has to be in order for him to use you. The surefire way to know whether or not you are dealing with a ‘commitment phobic’, is early detection. Once the relationship has evolved to a point whereas the only thing that differentiates the two of you from married couples is a ‘marriage certificate’, it’s time to get married. If he doesn’t bring it up, remove yourself from the situation and don’t come back into this situation for nothing less than marriage, not a promise of marriage – but the real deal!
The ‘Commitment Phobic’ man will break your heart – if you are smart you will make it sooner than later. This is a ride that you don’t want to be on, as this man is DANGEROUS, because he is a selfish and seasoned heart breaker. When he breaks your heart into several pieces you will understand what I am saying (notice I said when).
A really smart woman makes it sooner, as she will hold his hand to the fire until he gives her the marriage that she wants and for which there is no reason why she can’t have it – other than he doesn’t want too. If he doesn't quickly hustle you down to the court house (you never want to plan a wedding with a commitment phobe), dump his ass and don't look back no matter how much he begs and trust me he will. If you press for marriage, he will end the relationship or stall you in some creative way.
If he ends it, unfortunately, he will be back if he is not done using you, and when he comes back he will give you everything he thinks you need to keep you, except MARRIAGE (maybe a promise to marry you but not the real deal). He always has a reason why the marriage can’t take place instantly, and you will be so overjoyed that he came back to you and fall right back under his spell. Only this time, things are different, now an element of fear has been introduced into the relationship. Fear on your part, not his, as he has sent a very clear cut message that he will break off the relationship when pressured, and next time he just may not come back!
Women who find themselves at this crossroad will usually settle for what they can get from this man and hope he will fulfill his promise or things will turn out for the best – but she will not ever again pressure him. Some women become so debilitated by this situation, they are afraid to even mention marriage. Anxiety takes over anytime they feel like they must say something to him about the relationship and where it’s going and/or any concrete plans about the wedding. One thing is for sure, the ‘commitment phobic’, will make you look like a fool to everyone who knows you!
What makes these men seem so sadistic is that they almost always seek out women who want to get married. The logical thing to do since he doesn't want to get married would be to seek out women who also don't want to get married.. I can tell you why they don't, it’s because women who don’t want to get marriage are ‘free spirited’, untamable and far less nurturing. She also doesn’t portray the stellar lifestyle that this man needs for his woman to portray to make him look good in the presence of friends and family! Now that you know all about this Rat – how do you recognize him?
He is usually past 35 years old and has never been married. Most experts say 40, I don’t give these men that much time, as it is a rare straight man, good, bad, or somewhere in between, who makes it to 35 years of age without becoming involved in a serious relationship that leads to marriage. That’s the first caution sign. Next, once involved in the relationship, he controls you by telling you how different you are from other women on issues that allows him freedom to do whatever he wants. This is reverse psychology ladies – don’t buy it! If a man does things that you don’t like – speak up, be a ‘bitch’ like the rest of us! BITCHES get married – DOORMATS rarely do!
Another, trait of these guys, he says you are the first woman he has ever really loved! BULL SHIT, it’s just a ploy to get your head where it has to be in order for him to use you. The surefire way to know whether or not you are dealing with a ‘commitment phobic’, is early detection. Once the relationship has evolved to a point whereas the only thing that differentiates the two of you from married couples is a ‘marriage certificate’, it’s time to get married. If he doesn’t bring it up, remove yourself from the situation and don’t come back into this situation for nothing less than marriage, not a promise of marriage – but the real deal!
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This is what I've been dealing with to a 'T' I wish I read this sooner..it's all so true.
When we know better, we do better. So now that you know - remove this situation from your life - confident in the fact that you will survive!
I put up with this for 3 years thinking that is alcohol behavior was the real deal...but have been researching this because of the "rollercoaster" ride of going back and leaving him relationship. This last time was 3 months ago and stay that way...non existent from here on out....the funny thing is...is isnt a good looking man and stands 5'4" tall.Has a very negative attitude and plays victim! I overlooked all of this and gave him a "opportunity" believe me! I am an attractive 5'10" lady and he will never find another like me. He had very short relationships in his 20s and 30s (not many) never married. Would never introduce me to his mother, but would with friends. He is dillusional if he thinks his image is a single stud...he cant get good woman.Why would he have commitment phobia? Hes 49 yrs. old and sad he will be alone for the rest of his life, I will make a connection with a man who sees my beauty inside and out. Thanks for the opportunity to blog this.
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