Monday, July 28, 2014

DATING NAKED - REALLY?


Couple On A Date On Reality Show "Naked Dating"
 
Just when I think Hollywood or women can’t sink any lower into immorality, along comes naked reality shows.   All I can say ladies, “is don’t believe the hype!”   It is totally ludicrous for anyone with a shred of dignity to believe that you can get to know a person better when the two of you no longer worry about how you look, which is the premise of the show.
 
I haven’t seen the show, which premiered July 17, on VH1, and I never will.   I wouldn't dream of being supportive of  such vulgar nonsense.   Apparently, couples are set up on multiple nude dates, contestants must choose the person they're most compatible with.   Quite  frankly I  am sickened by the whole show.


On the first show, a young lady was paired up with two guys to go on dates with. On one date, the guy painted a picture for his date with his penis.  She said she didn’t choose him because  “Mmm, well I saw Joe’s testicles before I learned his name. We went naked zorbing — you know, when you roll around in a giant inflatable ball. It was hard to know where to look!!! Anyway, it was very nice but then I had an art class with Jack, who painted me a picture with his penis. He had lovely brushstrokes but was paler than a Beluga whale with rigor mortis so I chose Joe, and we’ve been together ever since. Would you like to see pictures from our first date?”

What is so ironic is how Hollywood puts this stupidity out there and present it as perfectly normal and acceptable behavior.  I really feel sorry for our youth and the world they will be forced to grow up in.  Ladies please stop allowing the media to dictate your morals and standards.
 
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Tuesday, July 22, 2014

Are Beyonce & Jay-Z Headed for Divorce Court?



Most everyone is saying, "Say It Ain't So", and I am saying, "Say It Is".   I used to be one of Beyonce's biggest fans until she hooked up with the likes of Jay-Z, and entered into her solo career. Then all of the vulgarity in performances and song lyrics surfaced.   Unfortunately, this happens all too often when a woman falls in love with an unsavory male of the thug persuasion, along with getting caught up in society's and Hollywood's over-sexualization  of women, with his approval and/or encouragement.  I've always contended that he was jealous of her and I still do.

It is rumored that his philandering is the major contributor to their alleged troubled marriage. If this is true, I just hope she has the inner-strength to divorce him, go further and do a heck of a lot better, as Jay-Z has been over-sensationalized simply because of his money and definitely not his character. 

I'm not trying to imply that Beyonce is a saint, as none of us are.  However, she was revered as a lady with a praise-worthy reputation pre-Jay-Z!   I am still in total shock and disbelief that she would make an album like her latest one, and that a husband who truly loved and honored his wife would allow it.  The only thing that makes them the power couple that everyone raves about is M.O.N.E.Y.

When I saw how angry Solange was at him in that elevator, I knew there was trouble in paradise, as my mild and very meek older sister got decked when trying to protect me when I was in the midst of my 'thug-love' addiction to my first husband.

Let's pray that Beyonce will soon realize that she "ain't got herself shit" with this man, stop dissing the other women, and divorce his ass, quick and in a hurry!   Then return to the self-respecting Beyonce that Tina taught her to be.

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Tuesday, July 15, 2014

Ms. Edna's Take on Steve Harvey's 90-Day Rule!

"ASK MS. EDNA"

Dear Ms. Edna:

I value your opinion and would like to know how you feel about waiting 90-days before giving up the "cookie" as Steve Harvey suggests?

Tonya

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Dear Tonya:

First of all thanks for reading my blog, valuing, and seeking my opinion.  Have you joined the movement?   

As most of you know, I have a great deal of respect for the dating advice that Steve Harvey gives women, and I wish more single women followed his advice.  I understand where Steve is coming from with this 90-day rule, as you are buying time to find out who and what you are working with.  

That being said, for the most part, I am totally in agreement with Steve, as getting to know a man before sharing your body is of the utmost importance in dating.  However, I am also of the premise that mutual love, respect, admiration, and a commitment to enter into a serious and monogamous relationship must also be in place prior to deciding when or if, to share your most prized possession with a particular man.  As you know, all of these factors are earned and require a considerable amount of time to be cultivated and determined.    This, in my opinion, is the mature and only way, that a woman should ever enter into a sexual relationship with a man.

I am fully aware that many single women honestly believe that rocking a man's world in bed causes him to fall in love with you.  I hate to disappoint, however nothing could be further from the truth - for him, it's just sex. Contrary to popular belief, true love occurs prior to a couple sharing their bodies. Lovemaking after falling in love is the icing on the cake!!!

Therefore ladies,  take your time in all aspects of dating, only date good guys that possess the qualities that you admire, respect and look up too in a man.  Then, when that special someone who makes your heart sing surfaces, make it a goal for the two of you to fall in love and not to have sex.  

Sincerely,
Ms. Edna

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Tuesday, July 1, 2014

DO MEN MISCONSTRUE FRIENDLINESS FOR FLIRTING?

E-mail From Reader:

Dear Ms. Edna:

I  am taking your advice, i.e., getting all dolled up whenever I leave home, smiling, saying hi and being friendly to all that I encounter as I go about my day.  Incidentally, I am really enjoying my new attitude, meeting lots of interesting people along the way, and have accepted a few dates as a result.  And,  I am loving me and my new glamorous look!

My problem; although most men are receptive and reciprocate with appreciation and kindness; a few men are misinterpreting my friendliness as a come on and seem to be turned off by it.  Am I being too friendly?  Please help!!!.........Baffled In Arizona

Dear Baffled In Arizona:

I am thrilled to hear that you are actively taking my advice and getting some positive results overall.  As the saying goes, "we can never please all of the people all of the time."  Just  so I can make an accurate assessment, are you innocently asking men out, offering or asking for their telephone number?  For instance,"it was nice meeting you and talking to you, let's get together again sometime". I have had friendly comments such as this misinterpreted back in the day, so don't use them.  Recently I had a reader to tell me  that she just said hi to a fellow and he totally ignored her.

Don't allow egotistical, insecure or just plain rude males change who you are.  Remember, we are taking our power back from men, and now doing things our way.  Look at it like this, "you missed a speeding bullet," be amused by it and go on about your wonderful life where you are now totally in control.You are well on your way to meeting a quality guy, unfortunately we have to mill through the riff raff in the process!  You have made great strides, don't ever give up!  I am so proud of you.

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Monday, June 2, 2014

ARE YOU AN INSECURE MESS?

"IF SO, STOP THE MADNESS"

None of us have any logical reasons whatsoever to be self-conscious, insecure or embarrassed by anything that has occurred in our lives, as there is not one person on the face of this planet who is any better than anyone else.  

That being said, let’s get crystal clear on some truths, so it can resonate with you that no one is better than YOU, and you are not better than anyone as well.  We are all the same, so there is no excuse for feelings of inferiority, insecurities and/or self-consciousness.  The truths: 

  1. There is no one on this planet that hasn’t experienced some form of hardship, abuse, or disappointment in their life. 
  2. There is no one on this planet that has not made some dumb mistakes. 
  3. There is no one on this planet that has not done something in his or her life that he or she is not ashamed of. 
  4. There is no one on this planet who has never felt insecure.
  5. There is no one on this planet that is any better than anyone else on this planet.
  6. There is no one on this planet that comes from a functional family.  All families are dysfunctional to some degree, because all people are imperfect human beings, and people compose families. 
Therefore, since everyone is the exact same on the inside; you have absolutely no reason to ever again feel self-conscious or inferior in the presence of anyone.  Although our outer appearance is superficial, no one can deny that when we look good on the outside our confidence soars - so present the world with the best YOU possible.

As always, I am just an email away whenever you need my assistance.
            

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Friday, May 30, 2014

OLD SCHOOL ROMANCE RULES ACHIEVE THE RESULTS YOU DESIRE!

"THAT IS - IF YOU ABIDE BY THEM FAITHFULLY"

As you all know, I have been very distraught over how over-sexualized women have become in our society, the gross disrespect from men, as well as the disrespect that women are exhibiting for themselves.  

Subsequently, several years ago, I started to explore various solutions to rectify the problems of women being hurt as a result of being rejected, and/or used and then discarded as a result of their own stupidd dating practices with men.  Therefore, I tried to find a solution that would make it easier on women, because a lot of women become weak and irrational once they meet men they like and start to date.  


Ultimately, I got the bright idea to start instructing women not to date but to form platonic friendships with men they meet.  I was thinking this would keep their minds off of coupling as well as the mindset that sex leads to serious relationships.  I believed it was the perfect solution for finally getting both parties off of ‘when are we going to have sex,’ and on to really getting to know one another prior to entering into romantic relationships. I tested this theory out on some female volunteers with very disappointing results.  

The tests revealed that women who have difficulty maintaining a level head in dating relationships, also can’t restrain themselves in friendship situations with men as well.  In the end, I was jolted back to reality and eagerly back to recommending and encouraging the use of tried and trusted old school romance rules.  Rules that have a proven track record for getting women the good husbands' they want and deserve, IF they abide by these rules.

There is just no getting around it ladies, there is no easy way out when it comes to finding and attaining true love.  I tried to find an easier route for you, but it came right back to self-discipline and forcing men to respect and chase you, and thereby, winning the privilege of becoming a candidate to win your affections and become your boyfriend.   At the end of the day, until a woman becomes sick and tired of being used, abused, hurt, and kicked to the curb, she will never be willing to keep sexual intimacy on the back burner until a man has developed genuine affection for her through good old fashion courtship.  

Until a woman adapts and adheres to the mindset that sex must be withheld while you allow a man to court you – thereby getting to know you, you him, and developing genuine feelings for each other, there really is no help for you.   Until this happens, I can’t help you and neither can anyone else, as you are just not willing to listen to voices of reason.  It has most certainly been a bitter pill for me to swallow – but I have learned once and for all that I can’t help anyone if they are not open and willing to change their dysfunctional behavior with men!

There are no shortcuts to getting a man into a relationship, it takes time.  Sex is never a substitute for strong emotional bonds between a man and a woman.  Therefore ladies, until a man forms an emotional bond with you prior to sex, when the thrill of ‘new’ you-know-what wears off, so will his interest.  I’m sorry, but that’s just the way it is. In a nutshell, tried and trusted old school romance rules are the only way to go in order to win the heart and last name of a ‘GREAT GUY’.    


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Wednesday, May 28, 2014

ARE YOU PREOCCUPIED WITH WHEN TO HAVE SEX?

"IT APPEARS THAT MOST PEOPLE ARE NOWADAYS"

Sex seems to be the primary focus in dating these days.  It's like most single men are in a hurry to jump a woman's bone so he can move on to the next conquest.  While single women are just as eager, erroneously believing that great sex is their entry into a relationship and the key to a man’s heart.

I am constantly asked when is the appropriate time to have sex.  First of all, the focus needs to be taken off of sex and put on the man and the relationship itself.  If you are overly concerned with when to have sex with a person you are just dating, I would say that you need to slow your roll and focus instead on whether or not this man is falling for you and actually interested in forming a committed relationship.  

Sex is not even a question if you are dating, as we all know, or should know, that dating doesn’t mean you are in a committed relationship and being involved in a mutually loving and monogamous relationship is the only type of relationship where sex is permissible. 

In this day and age, not only is it irresponsible to indulge in sex prior to being in an established committed relationship an exchanging a clean bill of health performed by a doctor, it's foolish.  I am advising all of my clients to go to the doctor with their mate to be tested for sexually transmitted diseases together, as one can't be too cautious.  Unfortunately, one can't accurately judge whether or not a man is being truthful.  Believe me, with the emails that I receive in this regard, it's better to be safe than sorry.

A good rule of thumb for engaging in sex is to make sure as much as possible that he has feelings for you, you for him, and he’s a great guy who fulfills your inner most needs and desires.  Then the question arises how do you know? All I can say is judge his feelings for you and his behavior according to his actions and not his words - talk is cheap and actions speak louder than words.  Honestly, at the end of the day, do you really want to be that intimate with someone who doesn't have deep feelings for you?  Therefore, be sure of his love, husband potential, and his STD status before you engage in sexual relations.


 
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Tuesday, May 27, 2014

DO YOU FEEL SORRY FOR TORRI SPELLING?

"I DO BUT I DON'T"

I feel sorry for Tori in terms of her being cheated on by her husband.  I have been in that situation with both of my ex-husbands' and it is a very hurtful and devastating situation.  

However, on the other hand, I don't feel sorry for her, because she bestowed this exact same pain and more upon Mary Jo Eustace, Dean McDermott's ex-wife.  Tori not only had an affair with Dean, but was instrumental in breaking up his home, family and marriage.  Dean walked out on Mary Jo and their son, so that he could marry Tori.  

This act alone shows that Tori is a very self-absorbed person with little consideration for the feelings of others when it comes to what she wants.  Hopefully, this situation will teach her to "do unto others as she would have them do unto her."   And, she will forsake her self-absorbed tendencies and start caring more about the feelings of others.   
 
Whether Tori realize it or not, this is a huge life lesson for her.  Even her reality show, 'True Tori' epitomizes her self-absorbed tendencies.  Obviously, no regard was given to how this show would affect her children (present or future).  The very premise of the show is based upon what Tori hoped to gain from airing the details of her troubled marriage publicly, rather than how the show would negatively impact her children – either now or later.  

In a nutshell ladies, think twice before taking up with married men, and how you would feel if your mate cheated on you.  More importantly, fall madly in love with YOU, so you can choose an upstanding man to love!!!

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Wednesday, May 7, 2014

WHY DO SO MANY GUYS FEEL SEXUALLY ENTITLED?

Have They Lost Their Damn Minds?

No they haven't, but a large number of single women certainly have; by making men too damn important! To the point that they bend over backwards to please them.  

It's really a crying shame how some women have become the pursuers of men, rather than men being the pursuers as it used to be back in the day.  

The media has depicted women as sexual objects, and some women actually believe that sex is all they are worth to men.  Thus, they are serving up their 'cookies' on silver platters in an attempt to win the love and affection of a man.  Subsequently, sex with most single women is so easy breezy, men have developed a since of entitlement when it comes to sex with the women they meet.

Disgusting?  Absolutely, but oh so true!  I received a call yesterday from a reader who said that she went on a job interview, only to be texted later that day by the owner who interviewed her with an offer to have sex, rather than a job offer.

This very attractive lady has very high self-esteem and self-confidence.  Needless to say, she was so incensed by not only his offer for sex, but his cockiness and sense of entitlement to her  body, that she cursed him up one side and down the other. Promising to file sexual harrassment charges against him, if he ever contacted her again for any reason.

When I spoke with her, she was seething with disbelief that this man had such little respect for women, and viewed himself as all that, which he wasn't, that he could so confidently propose sex to her, and on a job interview no less.

Ladies, you don't owe men anything, not your time, attention or affection.  For those men who think that you do, don't waste your valuable time with, as he is not worth anything  you have to offer - particularly your time and body.

A man can feel as entitled as he wanna, but he get's absolutely nothing unless you voluntarily give it to  him!  Realize your worth and cease all of this man-pleasin BS.  You are the prize and don't ever forget it!

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