Monday, September 29, 2014

LOVE YOURSELF BEFORE SEEKING LOVE

LOVE, HONOR AND VALUE YOU FIRST!

In your quest to love, honor and value yourselves, prior to seeking love.  Keep in mind that all of us are wounded souls trying to find our way in this world, and few of us recognize that JESUS is the way, and the only way.   

None of us are exempt from life’s misfortunes or challenges, no exceptions no matter who you are. Sadly, all of us have a story to tell.  Some of us cope with our wounds better than others, and many don’t cope at all.  However, the fact remains that all human beings are wounded to various degrees.  

While in this world, we must live our lives to the best of our abilities, and strive to be the best person we can be with integrity, until GOD brings us home.  Therefore, stop putting your own bowl on the floor, and falling prey to the ways of this ungodly world in an attempt to dull the pain of things you’ve done, or things that have been done to you.  We must love, honor, and value ourselves, irrespective of those regrettable situations.

You must stop focusing on these negatives and focus only on the positive aspects of your lives.  You are worthy of a good life and a good man, but you must believe it.  Know like you know, like you know that you deserve these things and that they are coming to you!

GOD Bless!
Ms. Edna

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Friday, September 26, 2014

SOME TIPS TO DATING SMART

"Love Yourself  More Than Any Other"

You must not get so caught up in finding love and getting married, that you lose sight of your common sense and allow your heart to be your guide.  Until you fall madly in love with yourself, and start living a happy-go-lucky, dignified, prideful and self-respecting life, don’t even think about dating.  These tasks alone, will keep you protected from most all bad circumstances.  Because when we love ourselves, we take every precaution to protect ourselves from harm.

Secondly, only date men you are attracted to and who meet your criteria.  Take the time to get to know dates via telephone, to determine whether or not they meet your qualifications before you agree to an official first date, no matter how long it takes.   By the time you agree to a first date, you should be at ease with each other as a result of your many conversations, which will eliminate awkward first dates.  And, he will know exactly what type of woman he is dealing with, your standards, your values, and what he can and can’t expect on a date with you, because you will have shared this information via these great telephone conversations.   

This knowledge will eliminate men who are not interested in establishing a long-term relationship.  Thus, you first date and subsequent dates will only be about having fun together as dates should be.  So make dates interesting and fun, which means saying goodbye to all of those boring dinner and drink dates.


Finally, remember that no matter how smitten you may become, your dates remains your friend until the one you want to be with, asks you to enter into an exclusive and monogamous relationship.  Self-respecting women, don’t have sex with their friends.  The bottom line, don’t even think about having sex until the two of you have discussed entering into a monogamous relationship and, you know by his actions that he had developed genuine feelings and affection towards you, and you him.   

Incidentally, make sure that all of the men you date are fully aware that these are prerequisites for jumping your bones!  Again, this eliminates those guys who are not interested in establishing a long-term relationship, just sex.  However, you must be smart and learn to decipher between those smooth talking guys who have learned to seduce women with words, it is his actions that you are looking for and not half-hearted ones either.


I Love You All,

Ms. Edna


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Wednesday, September 24, 2014

WHILE LEARNING TO LOVE YOU - DON'T FORGET ABOUT YOUR LOOKS & YOUR HOME!

"Being Good To You Also Entails Your Looks & Your Surroundings"


Remember the old adage when we look good we feel good?  It's true.  There is no better confidence builder than looking good and feeling good.  Therefore, don't forget about getting all glammed up as we discussed in-dept last week. 

"Get All Glammed Up Whenever You Leave Home"
Also, be good to yourself and boost your self-confidence by fixing up your home.  Look around your place of abode, would you feel comfortable and proud to have President and Mrs. Obama as sleep overs?  Do you  have tattered old sheets and bedding?  How about your towels; are they lush and sumptuous? And, what about your dishes, pot, pans and the general decor of your home?  

Are you proud or ashamed of these things?  If you don't feel that these things are good enough for the Obama's, they most certainly are not good enough for you!  Don't ever treat anyone, no matter their status, any better than you treat yourself.  If you feel they deserve best, why not you?

A well decorated home is not as expensive as you may think, as we have stores like HomeGoods, Target, Walmart, T.J. Maxx, Ross, Z-Galleries, Marshall's, etc.  All of these stores carry beautiful home goods with affordable price tags.  

If decorating is not your forte, find rooms you love in magazines and copy them, or seek the help of an Interior Decorator.  If you can't afford an Interior Decorator, seek the help of a skilled friend or family member.  Whatever it takes, fix up your home, it will make you feel good every time you come home, and you'll enjoy entertaining - be they the Obama's, friends or family.
"A PRETTY HOME MAKES US FEEL GOOD & PROUD"
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Monday, September 22, 2014

WORKING ON YOU INSIDE & OUT!


 "It's A Crucial Step Prior To Dating"

Believe it or not, we set the criteria for how others treat us. When you love yourself, respect, honor and value yourself,  it makes it easy for others to do the exact same.  This is why it is so crucial that you learn to love, respect, honor and value yourself prior to dating.

The next time you find yourself asking, "why doesn't he love, respect, honor and value me?  Check yourself!  Are you loving, respecting, honoring and valuing yourself?  Probably not, if you are not evoking these sentiments from others.   

Only you can make changes in your life that improve it.  Loving yourself is a very important part of enjoying and getting the most out of your life.  And, it's crucial for getting and maintaining satisfying relationships with others.
http://www.wikihow.com/Love-Yourself
 
In my journey towards self-love, two books by Christine Arylo, were instrumental in my becoming the woman that I am today, a self-loving one.  You may benefit from reading these two books as well, and I highly recommend them.  Both are available and reasonably priced at amazon.com:
  • Madly In Love With Me:  The Daring Adventure to Being Your Own Best Friend
  • Choosing Me Before We:  Every Woman's Guide to Life and Love
Please ladies, don't skip this very important step towards true love and marriage to a great guy.  If you are dead serious about finding and marrying an awesome guy, as well as being sick and tired, of being sick and tired of being used and/or abused by men, then kicked to the curb, don't skip this crucial step.  Just know that loving, respecting, honoring and valuing yourself is key to finding true love.


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Thursday, September 18, 2014

You Can Be As Beautiful & Stylish As Kim K. & Beyonce!

 "No one Can Stop You But You"

You can be just as beautiful as you want to be, you just have to work at it like these two celebrities do.  You didn't think they were effortlessly beautiful did you?

Like all Hollywood starlets, they have glam squads who are paid handsomely to keep them on top of their game, stylists to dress them, hair extensions for the glamorous look, diet, exercise, and shape wear to smooth everything out and kept in place. Yes, Ms. Kardashian wears hair extensions.

You can learn to be your own glam squad by hiring professionals to teach you how to do the things you don't know how to do for yourself, i.e., apply your own makeup, and style yourself, etc.  You must make looking good a priority the way these two young starlets do.  Therefore, don't hate em', appreciate em',  and learn how to make yourself a beautiful and glamorous head turner.
 
And, for the love of Pete, please stop putting other women on pedestals above yourself.  They are no better or worse than you, the choice is in all of us how glamorous we choose to be.  So what if they have an attribute that you wish you had.  You can bet your bottom dollar, that you or some other woman has an attribute they wish they had as well.
 
What both Kim K. and Beyonce both possess is confidence.  You can acquire confidence as well, without all of the fanfare, by just loving and appreciating what you have and striving to be the best YOU possible on a daily basis.
 
Until you develop this type of self-love and confidence, don't even think about dating to find the one.  Learn to love yourself, and accept the fact that absolutely no one on this earth is better than you.  Adopt excellent grooming habits, poise and posture.  Become a more stylish YOU and a fascinating head turner by making improvements in the following areas: hair, makeup, teeth, body appropriate stylish fashionable clothing, and a healthy body weight.
 
Learn how to take care of your skin and apply your own makeup impeccably.  Don't hesitate to seek professional help if you need it for makeup, as well as a hair dresser, personal shopper or image consultant.  Stop settling for mediocrity in life period, especially in regards to your looks, and go for glamorous and fabulous.  
 
Every woman wants to be a head turner whether they admit it or not.  Therefore, stop denying yourself the pleasure of being the woman that you really want to be!

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Monday, September 15, 2014

SEX IS NEVER THE KEY TO A MAN'S HEART!

"So Leave Sex Out of The Relationship Until There Is Mutual Love"

Many single women actually believe that sex equates to love, thereby thinking sex is the key to winning a man's heart. I guess this is why so many women are so eager to get sexual with the men they meet or date. 

Haven't you ladies learned by now that men can enjoy sex with women they don't even like?  Sex for a man is just that, sex!  It really breaks my heart when I hear about women initiating sex with men, or engaging in loveless sex, hoping it will translate into a relationship where they will be loved and adored.

Honestly, do some of you think so little of yourselves, that you think sex is all you have to offer a man that will hold his interest?   How about your great personality, you're a great conversationalist, you're fun loving, and fun to be around?

When you engage in sex with a man you just met or barely know, you are not giving him anything that he can't easily get somewhere else. The easiest thing in the world for a man to find nowadays is a woman to have sex with, as few women put any value on their ‘vaginas’ anymore.  Why not give him something most men are having difficulty finding; a confident, self-respecting and self-loving woman with high morals?  

Couple these attributes with a fun loving personality, a fun-filled life, and an interesting conversationalist, you will be considered a great catch that any good guy will be anxious to pursue and spend lots of time with.  Now isn't this a more dignified way of winning a man's heart?  I promise you, it is most certainly a more successful and effective way!

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Friday, September 12, 2014

OWN YOUR SEXUALITY WITH DIGNITY, PRIDE & SELF-RESPECT!



Also, where did the notion come from that owning your sexuality, entails indecent exposure? OK, so you love sex and you love being sexy - can't you still be a sexual being respectfully?  I think so, if you keep in mind that one's sexuality is a private matter - not meant to be displayed for the general public.  Being 'sexy' is an attitude, and most certainly not, 'indecent exposure'.

At 66 years old, I am no Beyonce, and don't wanna be.  However, when I get all dolled up, fully clothed, and with my 'glam' on, I feel sexy.  It's all about confidence, attitude, and feeling good in your own skin ladies, and so not about letting it all hang out for the world to see.

We were created to be sexual being ladies, and we all love feeling sexy - but do it with dignity, pride and self-respect. Vulgarity has never been and will never be in alignment with ladylike behavior.   So go out into the world and be a 'sexy lady', respectfully of course, it will do wonders for your self-love, self-esteem and self-respect!!!


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Wednesday, September 10, 2014

WE MUST STOP BLAMING MEN FOR OUR OWN SHORTCOMINGS!


"We Have All Heard The Term, "It's Not Him It's You"

I don't totally agree with this statement, as I feel it let's unscrupulous men totally off of the hook.  However, it does bring awareness to women to stop blaming men for every bad thing that happens to them in their associations with men, and to take a good look at their own behavior that allowed or contributed to his behavior.

I learned a long time ago that problems are never solved until we are totally honest with ourselves while looking within.  Blaming others keeps us from making changes about ourselves that desperately need changing.  Rarely are we innocent bystanders in these male/female adversities.

We will never grow as long as we continue to present ourselves as helpless little victims.  So put your big girl panties on and recognize your contributions in all adverse situations. In most cases, like me, you will come out concurring, "Damn, I was a stupid bitch."   Thus, when we know better, we do better!

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Friday, September 5, 2014

The Downside of Becoming The Best YOU Ever!



 “It Draws Out the Mean Girl In Some Women”

The bottom line, these women are hating on you because of their own insecurities and lack of self-confidence.  They feel like you are prettier, dress better, richer, smarter or whatever than them,  and it pisses them off, so they lash out at you.  

Please don’t play into their drama, it’s meant solely to make you feel as bad about yourself as they do about themselves.  Therefore, pity the fool and totally overlook their jealous outbursts and/or rude comments.   Don’t ever allow another person's animosity to change your disposition or who you are.

Although I have been aware of this awful jealous behavior from women when they encounter a woman who looks and dresses better than them, etc.  I have been totally taken aback by the number of women who are so afraid of evoking this rage from other women, they play down their own looks, or dummy themselves down in other ways, so as not to be threatening.   

Now, this  is truly sad, when one chooses being mediocre over standing out, just to fit in, and not be criticized for being fabulous or for enjoying a fabulous life.

Happy, secure, self-loving and self-confident women don't hate, they appreciate and are motivated by women who have it going on.  They also wouldn't dream of dumbing themselves down in any way in an attempt to make another feel better about themselves.  They realize that no one can make us feel better about ourselves but the man in the mirror.  It's a personal problem that only the man in the mirror can resolve.


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Wednesday, September 3, 2014

HOW TO LOOK ‘DROP DEAD GORGEOUS’ EVERY DAY

 

“It’s Not Easy, It Will Take Time & Effort”

To begin with, you must get your skin and hair right, your body tight, learn firsthand how to apply your own makeup like a professional and lastly, build a fabulous wardrobe. 

Flawless skin is an absolute must.   First and foremost, you’ll have to eat healthy, and drink plenty of water.  There are several benefits to these two things, which include great skin, good health, and keeping fat at bay.    

Develop a good morning and night facial skin care routine, that will include exfoliating, cleansing and moisturizing, this also goes for body care. Also, you always want to smell nice, so be sure to use cologne and deodorant after bathing/showering. For severe skin conditions, like acne, consult an esthetician or dermatologist.

A Flattering hairstyle.  My motto, “If the style makes you feel fabulous, be it a wig, extensions, or your own hair – go for it”, attitude is so key.

Lose weight and get physically fit.  A BMI calculator is the most accurate tool for determining if you need to lose weight or not.  A normal weight BMI is 18.5–24.9.  Calculate yours @:  http://www.nhlbi.nih.gov/health/educational/lose_wt/BMI/bmicalc.htm 

In order to get and maintain physical fitness, you will need to incorporate a daily exercise routine.  Just 20 minutes a day, 6 days a week is sufficient.  For example: Do upper body exercises on Monday & Thursday, Core exercises on Tuesday & Friday, and lower body on Wednesday and Saturday.  Just 20 minutes for each body section, that all it takes ladies.  As a person who hates exercise, if I can do this – anyone can!

Makeup.  There is absolutely nothing on this planet that enhances the beauty of a woman better than makeup - BAR NONE!!!  Every woman, no matter her age, looks prettier and more polished wearing makeup.  Therefore, make learning to apply your own makeup professionally, a priority.  Makeup lessons are relatively inexpensive from a great makeup artist in virtually every city.  However, there are some excellent tutorials on YouTube nowadays, which are free of charge.

Wardrobe.  You can start by getting rid of everything in your closet that doesn’t flatter your figure and make you look ‘drop dead gorgeous’, then build from there.  Don’t forget to accessorize your outfits and wear cute shoes.



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