Monday, October 20, 2014

STOP SEARCHING FOR LOVE!

 
"Have Fun, Enjoy Your Life As A Single"

"Allow Love To Find You"

I can't stress too much, how important it is to build a rich, full and engaging social and civic life for yourself as a single woman.  Why?  So you can take your focus off of finding love, and allow love to flow naturally into your life when the time is right.

Far too many single women sit around being miserable because they don't have a man and looking for love at every turn, instead of living in the now and enjoying life as it is in the moment. This attitude makes you desperate, and a prime candidate for being a "fool for love."

Being alone is not synonymous with being lonely.  Being lonely is a choice that you make.  You can be very happy alone and single, that is if you choose to be.  How can you be lonely if you have friends, family and an active lifestyle to interact with?  You can, but only if you don't actively engage yourself.  Spend quality time with friends and family, enjoy hobbies, and fulfill your civic and charitable responsibilities.

Trust me, God will send true love into your life when the timing is right, without you going through a slew of 'Mr. Wrong's & Mr. Right Now's.'

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Tuesday, October 14, 2014

HOW TO AROUSE HIS INTEREST IN YOU!

 "Engage Him In Conversation"

The easiest way to arouse a man’s interest in you is to engage him in many hours of conversation - on the telephone and on dates.  By engaging him in conversation (not Q&A sessions), you will begin to find out things about him that no one else knows; his dreams, goals, difficulties, favorite holidays, childhood memories, favorite food, favorite drink and pet peeves, etc.  He must also know these things about you.

The more of yourself that you share with him, the more of himself he will share with you.  That is, if he feels that he can trust you.  You gain his trust by not criticizing or showing indifference to things that he tells you.  You will never gain his full trust if you discuss with him the personal business of friends and relatives.  If you can’t be trusted with their secrets, he knows for sure you can’t be trusted with his.

As time goes on, you will begin to appreciate and understand each other in ways that others don’t.  Once the two of you start to share secrets, your relationship will intensify.  What you are doing here is creating intimacy and a special bond that is shared only between the two of you. You will be creating a foundation on which to build love for one another and the desire to be together long-term.  As you can see falling in love is not about game playing and strategies, it’s about opening up to each other by sharing and caring; thereby creating intimacy as you allow each other to see who you really are. 

Learn to really listen when having conversations with everyone until it becomes a habit.  All of us love having ones undivided attention when we are sharing our life experiences, a man is no different.  Learn to really listen to people and when they expose a character trait or situation that you find admirable, never fail to acknowledge it and express your admiration.  None of us can ever receive too many strokes including men.

In order to build a good relationship with a man or anyone else, learn to be yourself, love yourself as is, and allow others to do and be the same.   Don’t take anything for granted – be appreciative and verbally grateful for every single gesture that people extend to you no matter how small or trivial it maybe.  Nothing makes a person’s day more so than being verbally appreciated for the things they do for you.  It doesn’t matter whether you are male, female or child.   

Therefore, start dishing out compliments and thank you’s abundantly and stop assuming that men can’t handle these things without becoming big headed, because they flourish and revel in both.  The only criteria is to be sincere and genuine as you lavish men with compliments.


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Friday, October 10, 2014

THE IMPORTANCE OF CHOOSING A MAN WISELY!

What a Loser!
Confucius Says, "It is better to lose a lover than love a loser".

In selecting a possible mate, first ask yourself this very crucial question, "Would I want a son just like him?"  If the answer is yes, that's a great start. If the answer is no, you would be wise to keep it moving.

Secondly, does he have integrity?  By that I mean is he a man of his word, does he do what he says he will do?  Is he honest?  Can you trust him?  Is he emotionally mature?  What about his moral values, are they admirable?  Does he stand up for his beliefs and high standards?  Does he even have high standards?  You can get the answers to all of these questions over time, and by observing how he lives his life.

Thirdly, is he the type of man that you admire, respect and look up to? If not, you most definitely must keep it moving, as you will never have a happy life with a man that you neither admire, respect or look up to.

The warning signs are always there ladies, but we choose to ignore them or believe we can change him.   Let's not forget about gut feelings, as they never, ever fail us.  If you feel that something about him is not quite right, don't ignore these feelings, keep it moving.

Being single is not the kiss of death, but a miserable and unhappy marriage certainly is.  Get a life and enjoy it to the fullest until the right man comes along.  Whatever you do, don't settle, you will be sorry!

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Wednesday, October 8, 2014

IF YOU WANT A HIGH QUALITY MAN, YOU MUST BE A HIGH QUALITY WOMAN!

"A High Quality Man"
"High Quality People Set High Standards For Themselves, In Their Appearance, Mind, Body & Spirit"

High quality people set high standards for themselves and stand by them like a pit bull.  They give alot and expect alot.

My goal is for all of you to be high quality women, so you can attract high quality men.  This is why I preach taking care of yourself and striving to be an all around better person, prior to dating.

Ladies you must understand, and so do men, that whatever you want in a mate, you must be that type of person yourself.  So many men want a high quality mate who is loyal and faithful, but they are unwilling to be the same to her (my two ex husbands). I was loyal and faithful to both of them, but they were not to me.  My mistake was choosing men who didn't meet the same standards I set for myself, due to my low self-esteem and lack of self-love and self-worth.  Do you see the importance of choosing a mate wisely?

Few good men do this, they know when they are a great catch, and they seek a great catch in return.  This reminds me of a "blast from the past", Do Right Man, Do Right Woman by Aretha Franklin.

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Monday, October 6, 2014

FIRST DATE ETIQUETTE

All Dates Should Be Fun
If you have done your prerequisite dating homework, i.e. self-development, self-esteem building, as well as self-love development, and getting all glammed up on a daily basic,  the following first date etiquette will be a breeze for you.

1.  Get all dolled up.   Every date should be treated as a special occasion, the first date is no exception.  Therefore,  make sure your hair and nails are done, your makeup is on point, and you look drop dead gorgeous.  This is not to impress him, but for you to feel confident, self-assured, good about yourself, and cool, calm and collected.

2.   Be yourself.  Don't try to impress, be impressed.  Don't put on any airs, just be you.  You love who you are, so why wouldn't he?

3.   Give him your undivided attention.  Turn your cell phone off, and listen attentively when he is conversing with you.

4.  Don't over share.  For your part, keep the conversation light, and your personal business to yourself.

5.   Have fun.  Make this your primary objective.  Look for every opportunity to laugh and be jovial. 

6.   He's the man, allow him to be just that.  Let him open doors for you, etc.  Don't you dare reach for your purse when the check comes.  If he is a real man, he expects to pay and enjoys doing so.  Don't suggest a 2nd date, he's the man, let him lead and you follow.  Thank him for a fun evening and leave it at that.

7.    No sex or heavy duty petting.   He is just a date, need I say more.

8.   By all means don't drink too much.  Again, need I say more.

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Friday, October 3, 2014

SO YOU SAY YOU WANT TO BE MARRIED!


"Then Why Are You Giving Your All In Serious Relationships?"

A man will marry you if it makes sense to him. If he is already receiving all of you, it won't make sense to him  to marry you.

A man who truly loves you won't be put off by the standards you setup for yourself, nor will your standards run him off, as so many of you believe.  A man who runs off didn't mean you any good in the first place, and most certainly isn't in love with you.

Therefore girlfriends, think twice before you start cooking, cleaning and running his errands, etc. More importantly, don't give him all of your time and sex on demand.  All of these things are wifely duties, and you are not his wife.  In most cases, you haven't even been offered the job.

Maintain a busy social and civic lifestyle and you won't fall prey to these situations.  See him on the weekend, and make sure this time spent together is enjoyable and fun.  Every now and then, you can see him one time during the week.  However, don't make this a habit.  

The more he falls in love with you, quite naturally the more time he will want to spend with you.  But until he puts a ring on it, he can't, that is if you're smart.  Trust me, he will put a ring on it when he can't see you as often as he would like. Again, marriage has to make sense to men, and it will make sense to him when all of his needs aren't being met.

This is how you get a ring on it ladies, by giving him less instead of more of you.  Just remember to stay in your girlfriend lane, and keep in mind at all times that you are not his wife, and you don't owe him anything more than being a great girlfriend.

Ms. Edna gives sound dating advice to single women. Advice, if followed, guarantees your success in creating a loving relationship with a GOOD man that results in marriage. Log onto msedna.blogspot.com daily and learn how to love yourself all the way to the altar! THIS BLOG IS COPYRIGHTED - ALL RIGHTS RESERVED © msedna.blogspot.com 2007-2014 Disclaimer: All images posted on this site are copyrighted by their respective owners. MsEdna.blogspot.com makes no claims of ownership or credit for these photos whatsoever unless duly noted.

Wednesday, October 1, 2014

LET A MAN BE THE MAN!


“So What You’re Successful and Make Good Money, 
Good For You”


I have been told by countless men, including my son, when the tab comes, their dates immediately reach for their purses, and they promptly tell her, it’s on them. In my opinion, when women do this on dates, it signifies that they are so grateful to have been asked out on a date, they feel they must reward the man by picking up the tab. Or, they feel superior to their date, and wants him to know they can afford to pay.

Ladies, a real man expects to pay and wants to pay on dates (look at the smile on that man's face as he takes the tab).  The only exception to a woman paying for a date, is when she asks a man out, or when in a serious monogamous relationship, and she wants to treat her man on his birthday, his promotion, etc.

If a man is broke, then he ought to know that he's not qualified to date a top quality woman like you.  In fact, in my opinion if a man is broke, he shouldn't be dating until his finances improve.  Here again is another instance where a real man will put a ring on it, when it becomes financially taxing  to foot the bill for all of your many outings, so he can get some relief.

I've read on line that men want women to split the tab on dates but are afraid to ask.  I can't emphasize enough,  a real man expects to pay and wants to pay on dates. You do the math!!!
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Monday, September 29, 2014

LOVE YOURSELF BEFORE SEEKING LOVE

LOVE, HONOR AND VALUE YOU FIRST!

In your quest to love, honor and value yourselves, prior to seeking love.  Keep in mind that all of us are wounded souls trying to find our way in this world, and few of us recognize that JESUS is the way, and the only way.   

None of us are exempt from life’s misfortunes or challenges, no exceptions no matter who you are. Sadly, all of us have a story to tell.  Some of us cope with our wounds better than others, and many don’t cope at all.  However, the fact remains that all human beings are wounded to various degrees.  

While in this world, we must live our lives to the best of our abilities, and strive to be the best person we can be with integrity, until GOD brings us home.  Therefore, stop putting your own bowl on the floor, and falling prey to the ways of this ungodly world in an attempt to dull the pain of things you’ve done, or things that have been done to you.  We must love, honor, and value ourselves, irrespective of those regrettable situations.

You must stop focusing on these negatives and focus only on the positive aspects of your lives.  You are worthy of a good life and a good man, but you must believe it.  Know like you know, like you know that you deserve these things and that they are coming to you!

GOD Bless!
Ms. Edna

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Friday, September 26, 2014

SOME TIPS TO DATING SMART

"Love Yourself  More Than Any Other"

You must not get so caught up in finding love and getting married, that you lose sight of your common sense and allow your heart to be your guide.  Until you fall madly in love with yourself, and start living a happy-go-lucky, dignified, prideful and self-respecting life, don’t even think about dating.  These tasks alone, will keep you protected from most all bad circumstances.  Because when we love ourselves, we take every precaution to protect ourselves from harm.

Secondly, only date men you are attracted to and who meet your criteria.  Take the time to get to know dates via telephone, to determine whether or not they meet your qualifications before you agree to an official first date, no matter how long it takes.   By the time you agree to a first date, you should be at ease with each other as a result of your many conversations, which will eliminate awkward first dates.  And, he will know exactly what type of woman he is dealing with, your standards, your values, and what he can and can’t expect on a date with you, because you will have shared this information via these great telephone conversations.   

This knowledge will eliminate men who are not interested in establishing a long-term relationship.  Thus, you first date and subsequent dates will only be about having fun together as dates should be.  So make dates interesting and fun, which means saying goodbye to all of those boring dinner and drink dates.


Finally, remember that no matter how smitten you may become, your dates remains your friend until the one you want to be with, asks you to enter into an exclusive and monogamous relationship.  Self-respecting women, don’t have sex with their friends.  The bottom line, don’t even think about having sex until the two of you have discussed entering into a monogamous relationship and, you know by his actions that he had developed genuine feelings and affection towards you, and you him.   

Incidentally, make sure that all of the men you date are fully aware that these are prerequisites for jumping your bones!  Again, this eliminates those guys who are not interested in establishing a long-term relationship, just sex.  However, you must be smart and learn to decipher between those smooth talking guys who have learned to seduce women with words, it is his actions that you are looking for and not half-hearted ones either.


I Love You All,

Ms. Edna


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Wednesday, September 24, 2014

WHILE LEARNING TO LOVE YOU - DON'T FORGET ABOUT YOUR LOOKS & YOUR HOME!

"Being Good To You Also Entails Your Looks & Your Surroundings"


Remember the old adage when we look good we feel good?  It's true.  There is no better confidence builder than looking good and feeling good.  Therefore, don't forget about getting all glammed up as we discussed in-dept last week. 

"Get All Glammed Up Whenever You Leave Home"
Also, be good to yourself and boost your self-confidence by fixing up your home.  Look around your place of abode, would you feel comfortable and proud to have President and Mrs. Obama as sleep overs?  Do you  have tattered old sheets and bedding?  How about your towels; are they lush and sumptuous? And, what about your dishes, pot, pans and the general decor of your home?  

Are you proud or ashamed of these things?  If you don't feel that these things are good enough for the Obama's, they most certainly are not good enough for you!  Don't ever treat anyone, no matter their status, any better than you treat yourself.  If you feel they deserve best, why not you?

A well decorated home is not as expensive as you may think, as we have stores like HomeGoods, Target, Walmart, T.J. Maxx, Ross, Z-Galleries, Marshall's, etc.  All of these stores carry beautiful home goods with affordable price tags.  

If decorating is not your forte, find rooms you love in magazines and copy them, or seek the help of an Interior Decorator.  If you can't afford an Interior Decorator, seek the help of a skilled friend or family member.  Whatever it takes, fix up your home, it will make you feel good every time you come home, and you'll enjoy entertaining - be they the Obama's, friends or family.
"A PRETTY HOME MAKES US FEEL GOOD & PROUD"
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