I will be the first to admit that dating is puzzling because you are spending quality time with an individual, but there has been no verbal commitment of exclusivity or commitment. Subsequently, many start to make assumptions, which includes assuming they are a committed couple, based solely on the fact that they are spending time together and in most cases sexually involved as well.
Dating is merely a time frame in which we spend time with individuals for the sole purpose of getting to know them better in order to determine if he/she would make a suitable partner. If you are dating smart, this definitely does not include anything of a sexual nature, including kissing - other than an occasional friendly hug, or peck on the cheek. And, it gives both parties the freedom to date other people to determine if he/she would make a suitable partner as well.
Trust and believe, if and when one of your dates becomes smitten, he won't be able to handle the thought of you dating others, and will ask you to be his girl in an exclusive relationship. As you can clearly see, dating is about choosing a suitable partner, according to your individual standards for an intimate relationship.
I always advise my clients to make the definition of dating, a topic of conversation on first dates. This conversation will give both parties, a clear understanding of what can or cannot be expected of each other.
Doing this dating period, both parties get to know all about each other by revealing their true character during many enlightening conversations. With the men that you date, little by little, you must make your standards known, as well as your deal breakers once in a committed and exclusive relationship. You must also encourage your dates to do the same, as you don't want any surprises for either of you, should he ask you to become his girlfriend in an exclusive relationship, and you agree to it.
In addition, by disclosing your standards to each other while merely dating, gives each of you the option to stop seeing each other, should things be revealed that either of you know you can't live with or without.
There are many other guidelines for dating smart, that we'll discuss at a later date. In the meantime, feel free to ask me questions that you need an immediate answer to.