Wednesday, August 27, 2014

"LADIES, WE ARE NOT VENDING MACHINES!

"Men Treat Women Like Vending Machines That They Feed With Kindness Until Sex Falls Out" 

 

I saw this quote on the Internet, isn't it awful ladies?  Unfortunately, many guys feel this way, so we must be on guard to this irrational thinking and not fall prey to it.  I had a client to tell me that she heard a guy tell other guys "y'all were right, she finally gave up the cookie after I took her shopping like you all suggested."

As all of you are fully aware, we can't control men and/or their thinking. However, we are in full control of our own behavior and thinking.  Therefore, we must lose the perception that we are obligated to exchange sex for kind gestures by a man, i.e., buying you a drink, dinner, and taking you on vacation, or shopping, etc.

You must adopt the attitude, that you don't owe men anything no matter how good they are to you, especially your body. Your body  should never be for sale under any circumstances. 

I have heard of women feeling obligated to be nice to a man for sending them over a drink.  Ladies, this is preposterous thinking, a $5.00 drink, really?  A simple thank you out of common courtesy, being how you are a 'classy' lady, is all that is warranted - nothing more and nothing less.  You don't owe him attention or anything else.

I believe, once again, that this insane thinking by women, that they are obligated to repay men in some fashion, depending upon their moral standards, for being nice to them, screams LOW SELF-ESTEEM!

Develop your self-esteem and expect to be treated with kindness and consideration because you deserve it.  Once that self-esteem is flying high, you won't feel you owe  a man or anyone for that matter, anything just because they are nice to you - except everyday common courtesy.

When you start to think highly of yourself, you won't view simple acts of kindness as extraordinary - just kind gestures because you are you and deserving of being treated special.

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Monday, August 25, 2014

THE MAIN INGREDIENT FOR A MATE!


"TRUSTWORTHINESS"
In order for us to trust the men we allow into our lives to date, and especially that special man we view as our 'soul mate', they must first be trustworthy and you can only find this out by taking however long necessary to get to know them through and through.  And, when you see crazy, cross the damn street!!!

You can't determine if a man or anyone for that matter is trustworthy until you get to know them.  You must spend quality time with them, both in person and via telephone. Then you must carefully observe and evaluate everything he says and does. 

This is not a step to take lightly, so you must treat it with the utmost importance. A facade can only be kept up for just so long, then our true colors surface.  Therefore, don't hurry this process.  Look, listen, learn, be patient, and be prepared to run like hell if need be!

Follow this link for some qualities to look for: http://www.wikihow.com/Judge-Character

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Friday, August 22, 2014

NOT EVERY BRIDE-TO-BE SHOULD BE ENVIED!

  
"Some Should Actually Be Pitied"

Have you noticed as I have, that every time a single woman announces that she is engaged, most everyone, including her closest single girlfriends are ecstatic and some a tad bit envious, even if they know her husband to be is definitely not a great catch (a cheater, opportunist, thug, loser or abuser, etc.).  Why is this?  Rarely do they show or voice their disapproval (like the young lady in the picture), or share with her their fears that she maybe making a terrible mistake.

I believe this is due to our natural tendency to coddle each other by telling each other what we want to hear rather than what we need to hear. Instead of viewing this behavior as deceitful, most women view coddling as protecting.  When in reality, deceit is never a loving and/or protective position to take. 
 
I can remember as a young girl growing up, hearing some older women declare, "a piece of a man is better than not having a man at all."  WOW!  I viewed that statement as totally stupid back then, and I most certainly do now.  As one can clearly see, women have a long history of idiotic thinking and behavior when it comes to men.

Ironically, this appears to be the same mode of thinking of women today, evidenced by their congratulating and and envying a woman that is marrying a "piece of a man", when they really should be pitying her.

This is yet another stupid behavior that we, as women must shed. Make a pact with your girlfriends that you will not coddle each other, but tell each other what you need to hear rather than what you want to hear when it comes to the behavior of the men we foolishly allow into our lives,as well as each others own stupid behavior with men.

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Wednesday, August 20, 2014

LOOKING FOR LOVE IN ALL THE WRONG PLACES - THE INTERNET


 "Just Say No To On-Line Dating & Get A Life"

The Internet is by-far the most dangerous path that a single women can pursue in search of love and marriage, and the laziest.  Why sit on the couch searching through e-mails, wishing and hoping that you have been chosen by some loser or predator?   For men looking to exploit females in some fashion; the Internet is their playground.

I have heard waay too many on-line dating horror stories of rape, murder, attempted murder, cat-fishing, scams and sexual exploitation that has turned me totally against on-line dating. However, in most cases the victims are gullible and desperate to be loved, which makes them prime targets for these predators.  Unfortunately, "stupid bitches" are the first words that comes to mind when listening to these women describe their experiences. 

I'm talking women who send thousands of dollars to men they have never even met face-to-face, simply because he declares his love for them.  Women who accept dates without first checking these jokers out to the best of their  abilities.  Women who sleep with these characters at the first meeting, not knowing or even caring if he is STD free.  I could go on and on, but I'm sure you get my drift.  It really doesn't matter if you are dating on-line or traditionally, you must take better care of yourself by exercising dignity, pride, and self-respect.  Along with self-love, sound judgment and dating practices.  Hence, the title of my new book, "STUPID BIATCHES NO MO".  We are not stupid ladies, but we have got to stop behaving like we are, and become VICTORS not VICTIMS.

Ladies, you have got to stop being lazy in your search for love, and setting yourself up to be exploited by behaving stupidly with men.  There would be no need for on-line dating, if single females would get all dolled up whenever they left home, and cultivate a rich and full life for themselves.  These two things alone affords countless opportunities to meet high-quality men. Therefore, you must lose all of those stupid dating practices and learn how to win in love with dignity, pride, self-respect and glamour!

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Monday, August 18, 2014

WHY NOT GET ALL DOLLED UP EVERYTIME YOU LEAVE HOME?

 “The only rule is don’t be boring and dress cute wherever you go. Life is too short to blend in.” Paris Hilton

"Dolled Up Kim at Grocery Store"



Love her or hate her, Kim K. always looks fabulous no matter where she is going.   Personally, I love women who take this much pride in their personal appearance; so don't hate her, let her be your motivator.

I agree with Paris, life is too short to just blend in.  So why not stand out and turn heads whereever you go?  You never know who you will see when you leave home, an old boyfriend, a former classmate, your worst enemy, your boss, etc.  Do you really want any of them to see you 'tore up from the floor up?'  I think not, and don't forget, you can meet Mr. Right anytime, anywhere. Therefore, never leave home without looking your absolute best, no matter where you are headed.

I hear a lot of women stating that it is too much trouble to put on makeup everyday and get dressed up everyday.  I have a difficult time wrapping my head around that  statement nowadays, since deciding to be a more glamorous me. Looking good is feeling good.  Plus, it boosts our self-esteem, that in itself is worth the time and effort it takes to get all dolled up.
Every time you step outside your home into the public eye, strive to convey your image of glamour.  The following link helped me to achieve this goal, and I'm sure it will assist you in becoming a more glamorous YOU as well.  Check it out: http://www.wikihow.com/Be-Glamorous


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Friday, August 15, 2014

HOLDING YOUR HEAD & STANDARDS HIGH ARE DATING MUSTS!


 Coco Chanel had some very inspiring and truthful quotes for women.  This one is by far one of my favorites, second only to Helen Rubenstein's, "There are no ugly women, only lazy ones".

As you enter into the dating world, only after raising your self-esteem to the highest degree, and loving the heck out of you - mind you. Remember to keep your heels, head and standards high.  

What does that mean?  It means to behave in a manner that makes you and your mama proud.  Always exhibit dignity, pride and self-respect in your demeanor, while standing confidently by high ethical standards. And, glamorously of course  in high heels!!!

What high-quality male could resist such a rare and difficult to find female like this?  Your  new-found persona will be screaming, "WIFE MATERIAL!"

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Wednesday, August 13, 2014

WHAT'S PREVENTING YOU FROM ASPIRING TO BE A BETTER YOU?

 It's perplexing how so many single women aspire to meet an awesome guy who has it going on, but don't aspire to these qualities for themselves. My question to those of you who fall into this category, "why would an awesome guy who has it going on, want to be with a mediocre woman who doesn't have it going on?"  These type of men don't have to settle for second best, and trust me, they are not going to.

However, just for the moment, let's take men out of the equation and ask yourself, "why am I settling for being mediocre and not aspiring to be the best I can be?"   Is it laziness, a poor self-image, a lack of self-love or what?  For me, it was a lack of self-love.

What are you telling yourself that you have become  complacent about your personal appearance and grooming? Even though taking great pride in our personal appearance to the degree of turning heads and standing out in a crowd is not an aspiration of most women today, please don't let it stop you.  

Being ordinary is easy and takes little or no effort whatsoever. Not only that, you will have plenty of company.  Becoming extraordinary definitely takes more work.  However, it is well worth the extra effort, and will boast your self-esteem by leaps and bounds. You will transform from the woman who envies women that have it going on, to becoming one of them.  Even the thought feels good - doesn't it? 

There is no dignity, pride or self-respect in being overweight, not taking care of yourself, or leaving home not looking your absolute best, etc.  This degree of excellence is what all women should strive for. Therefore, identify your specific problem area and correct it ASAP.  Dignity, pride, and self-respect are the characteristics that motivate all of us  to be the best we can be.

These attributes come from personal development, and personal development will only happen when you make a firm decision to be the best YOU that you can possibly be.  Always remember, it's never too late to learn new behaviors and develop yourself.  

Exploring personal development will be instrumental in helping you to set goals and reach your full potential. Therefore ladies, stop short-changing yourself. I love you all, flaws and all, but for now it's time to get busy loving yourself and in turn become a better YOU!

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Monday, August 11, 2014

HOW TO SELECT A GREAT HUSBAND!

Having been married and divorced twice with not a clue as to how to select a husband, divorce was inevitable.  Not only that, I was not in sync with who I was as a person or what I needed in a marriage to be satisfied, content and happy.  Consequently, as a result of my own blunders in selecting a life-time partner, and what I have learned as a result, I consider myself perfectly capable of instructing you on how to select a great mate. 

In order to attract and catch a great guy, you must also be a great catch.  Therefore, make sure that you are extremely happy and content with yourself, your job, and your overall life in general life. This is what you expect from a great guy, so why not hold yourself to these same high standards.

Secondly, get into you and determine your needs and desires in order to be satisfied, happy and content in marriage. Then seek a man who can fulfill those needs and who possesses those qualities that you admire, respect, appreciate, and look-up to in a man.  Not only is this crucial for you, it is crucial to a man being happy, content and in love.  

Additionally, he must be loving, in to you, supportive,  a caring man with high moral values, and equipped with habits and character traits that clearly demonstrate that he will be a good husband to you and a good father to your children.   

He is not going to be perfect and neither are you, so don't look for or expect perfection.  However, look for the characteristics mentioned above and once in a serious relationship, have serious discussions about moral values, family values, and expected roles as  husband, wife and parents.  There are plenty of great guys out there, so know that you don't have to settle, you just have to be patient, stop looking for love in all the wrong places, and never deviate from the type of man that you admire, respect, look up to, who has admirable moral and family values, and who, like you, is enjoying the amazing life he has established for himself.


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Friday, August 8, 2014

YOU DON'T HAVE TO KISS FROGS TO MEET THE ONE!

"You Just Have To Know Exactly What You Want & Don't Entertain Anything Less"


That's just how simple it is ladies.  Know yourself, love yourself, and become very familiar with the qualities that a man must possess in order for you to be happily in love and content with him as the man  you admire, respect and look-up to.

You will definitely meet lots of frogs (boneheads, idiots, jerks, etc.), however, you don't have to kiss any of them.  Once you know exactly what it is you need, must have in a relationship, and the type of man required to meet your needs, kissing frogs will definitely be a thing of the past - that is if you don't deviate from your needs, desires, or the type of man whom you admire, respect and look-up to.  The only thing any of us get from kissing frogs is 'warts', so why waste your time?

I certainly wish I had known how important it is to not only love a man, but to admire, respect and look-up to him, and how important it is to a man to be admired, respected, appreciated and looked up too, in my younger years.  But I didn't, consequently both of my marriages ended in divorce.   Hence, I learned that being in the wrong relationship is a 1000 times worse than not being in one at all.  This is what I want for all of you to fully grasp.

That being said, get to know yourself, fall madly in love with yourself, get all glammed up, and live an exciting, fun-filled, and productive single life until your "Mr. Right" comes along!

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Wednesday, August 6, 2014

YOU CAN'T CHANGE MEN!

Know that you can't change grown people, you can only change yourself.  However, by attempting to change men, you can be changed into a complaining and nagging bitch, begging for her needs to be fulfilled.  Really?  Is that what you want? Of course not, you just want to be happily in love.  Just know that this is not the way to achieve that goal.

If you meet a man that has characteristics that you feel that you must and can change in order to be satisfied with him - then think again - you absolutely can not!    Trust in the fact that you can and will find a man that you can admire, respect and look-up too, as is.   No more 'dress up' as  my oldest daughter  refers to this behavior.  If he is not exactly what you need and must have in a man - keep it moving ladies.  As Oprah says, if you see crazy "cross the street."   Like most of you, I had to learn this lesson the hard way, thru experience.  But at least we learned.

Therefore, be on the lookout at all times for that man who not only makes your heart sing, but that you admire, respect and look-up to.   He's out there, just create an enjoyable single life for yourself and wait patiently.   Glamorously of course!!!
 
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