DO WOMEN DRESS UP TO PLEASE SELF OR TO CATCH OR PLEASE MEN?

HSN Show Host - Tamara Hooks

Not Everything Women Do Is

All About Men!

As you all know, I am currently in Oklahoma City recuperating from right hip replacement surgery, complicated by osteoarthritis in my other joints. 

While lying in bed yesterday morning watching my favorite shopping network, and one of my favorite show hosts, HSN and Tamara Hooks respectively. I was taken aback when Tamara, while selling a female garment, proudly commented "us women only dress up to catch a man", and her male co-host readily agreed  -   WOW!!!

 I think it is safe to assume that there is not a straight woman on the face of this earth who  doesn’t relish in male attention – we love it!  However, male attention is not the “means to an end” when "getting all dolled up", for secure women who love themselves.  We do things to better ourselves for US; the attention and appreciation we receive from men,  husbands, and/or partners is a by-product of taking care and pride in our appearance.  

In my opinion, Tamara's statement was totally absurd, as well as an insult to self-loving and sophisticated  women everywhere.   Honestly, her statement incensed me and I still can't believe a beautiful and sophisticated woman like herself only grooms herself for the sole purpose of  seeking male attention.  Hopefully, this was just a slip of the tongue.

Consequently, I took to the airways to poll some clients, close friends and family members - married, single and involved to get their take.  I was relieved that all shared my sentiments and not all women are that one-dimensional.  All readily admitted, that while male attention was a welcomed and appreciated by-product of "getting all dolled up", at the end of the day, it's all about pride in their appearance, and love of self.  Thanks to all of you who participated in the poll.  I value your opinions as you all know

So what's your take readers?  Talk to me - leave a comment!

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What To Do When He's Not Treating You The Way You Need To Be Treated

"Bitching & Complaining WON'T Solve The Problem"

Surely by now ladies, you must know you can't control anyone but yourself.  Baby please, you cannot make the grown men you are dating, do anything they don't want to do.  And, all of your childish temper tantrums are a total waste of your time and his.  Action really does speak louder than words.  Kick him to the curb and keep it moving if he's not treating you the way you want to be treated.

If you honor and value yourself - there is no way you will stoop to begging a man, or anyone else for that matter, to fulfill your needs.  Women who genuinely love themselves, never even entertain this tactic as a viable solution to getting their needs fulfilled.  Never allow anyone to  make the decision of how they are going to treat you - this decision is yours and yours alone.  Many women today are so fearful of either not having a man or losing one, they allow men to treat them with disrespect or on their terms.

I just read a great article that I suggest you read,  http://www.balleralert.com/profiles/blogs/ladies-if-the-guy-isnt-treating-you-right-then-it-is-your-fault .  It conveyed, "women of today are so consumed with finding a man, keeping a man, and not losing that man to another woman, that we are willing to sacrifice our own self worth, happiness, and so on. We are willing to settle for almost any type of dating experience with a man. As long as he is paying attention to us, we are pleased."

This statement is sad, but oh so true in the vast majority of cases.  Now how pathetic is that?   Give me your thoughts - leave a comment.

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AMERICAS FAT EPEDIMIC

 "Is This An Addiction To Food, Insufficient Self-Love, Lack of Self-Discipline/Drive, Lack of Pride, Laziness, 

or a Combination of All Five?"'

America's Fat Epidemic

To tell you the truth I'm somewhat baffled.  However, at the end of the day, I am inclined to lean towards insufficient self-love, coupled with a lack of self-discipline, drive, and pure unadulterated laziness.  Far too many in society are too damn lazy to take control of our own lives, and make every effort to be the very best we can be in all areas of our lives; in spite of the realization that we will never be perfect.

I have never seen so many obese people in our society ever!  People who have literally given up on attaining a high quality of life.  People who are perfectly satisfied and content with merely existing and living substandard lives. This attitude is evidenced by this obesity epidemic.  An epidemic that is becoming more and more acceptable by society.  I've noticed that fat or obese people are being used more than usual on commercials and television shows. It's like an endorsement of being overweight, which I think is detrimental to a society where the majority of it's citizens already settle for being average, and leading uneventful lives.

As I wrote in a previous post "Fat Is Not Beautiful", many women, erroneously, link their fatness to sex appeal. To maintain or not to maintain a normal weight should not be linked to anyone but the woman in the mirror.  You must strive to be the best YOU possible for YOU and no one but YOU!  I have warned of the dangers of accepting society standards, we can all clearly see where those standards get us.  You must set your own standards and live by them religiously.  I believe that more and more people are allowing themselves to become fat because they feel there is safety in numbers.  Therefore, since there are so many fat and obese people nowadays - they have lowered their own standards and become fat.

I don't have all the answers - but I do have the solution to all of your problems including this one - FALL MADLY IN LOVE WITH YOU and, you will change your life along with all of your problems for the better!!!  Trust me on this one - I've been there and it was the best thing I could have ever done for myself.

Ms. Edna gives sound dating advice to single women. Advice, if followed, guarantees your success in creating a loving relationship with a GOOD man that results in marriage. Log onto msedna.blogspot.com daily and learn how to love yourself all the way to the altar! THIS BLOG IS COPYRIGHTED - ALL RIGHTS RESERVED © msedna.blogspot.com 2007-2012 Disclaimer: All images posted on this site are copyrighted by their respective owners. MsEdna.blogspot.com makes no claims of ownership or credit for these photos whatsoever unless duly noted.

KATIE COURIC SAYS DATING @ 55 IS FUN

"Are You Having Fun Dating"?

Although Katie never dreamed she would be dating at 55, she says its fun.  She also revealed that she is done with “finite relationships” and would like to meet a life partner.  I am so on board with her at age 65.

Dating should be fun no matter your age and should not be viewed as the drudgery that most women describe as their dating experience.  If you are not having fun while in search of a life partner (husband), you are obviously dating all wrong.

First and foremost, you must be very selective about the men you date and not just date anyone who asks.  Like Katie, I prefer dates that are setup by friends.  Friends, mind you, with great taste and judgment.  I am turned off by men who are comfortable with easily approaching women they find attractive.  It screams “cheater” in my opinion.  I prefer men that are somewhat ‘reserved’ in this area.

Carefully select the men you date and I promise dating will become a fun experience.  It’s quality and not quantity that make the difference!

Ms. Edna gives sound dating advice to single women. Advice, if followed, guarantees your success in creating a loving relationship with a GOOD man that results in marriage. Log onto msedna.blogspot.com daily and learn how to love yourself all the way to the altar! THIS BLOG IS COPYRIGHTED - ALL RIGHTS RESERVED © msedna.blogspot.com 2007-2012 Disclaimer: All images posted on this site are copyrighted by their respective owners. MsEdna.blogspot.com makes no claims of ownership or credit for these photos whatsoever unless duly noted.

HOW WILL I KNOW HE'S THE ONE?

 

“Only Time Will Tell”

 

I am asked this question quite frequently, as if one can know right off of the rip whether a man is the man for you. Sorry ladies there is no pat answer to this question, as only time will tell. First and foremost, you must determine if he has the characteristics that you admire, respect, and look up to in a man. This is very important and crucial to establishing and maintaining an enduring relationship with men. In addition, he must meet your personal criteria, as well as fulfill what you need, want and must have in a relationship with a man to be happy and content. Last but certainly not least –you must be in love with him.

 

As you can see, discovering all of these things takes time and they don’t occur overnight. Over the course of dating, you will get a glimpse into his personality and overall character by way of meaningful conversations and time spent out and about having fun. Then after the two of you mutually decide to enter into a monogamous relationship, all of the other things will fall into play. Then, and only then – will it be revealed to you clear as day if he is THE ONE.

 

Therefore, don’t start planning the wedding until you know all of these things – take your time and get to know him and allow him to get to know you – no faking, give him the real you. He will eventually find out who you really are anyway. 

 

Happy days in your search for THE ONE – he’s out there – have fun looking for him – and don’t you dare settle for less than THE ONE!

Ms. Edna gives sound dating advice to single women. Advice, if followed, guarantees your success in creating a loving relationship with a GOOD man that results in marriage. Log onto msedna.blogspot.com daily and learn how to love yourself all the way to the altar! THIS BLOG IS COPYRIGHTED - ALL RIGHTS RESERVED © msedna.blogspot.com 2007-2012 Disclaimer: All images posted on this site are copyrighted by their respective owners. MsEdna.blogspot.com makes no claims of ownership or credit for these photos whatsoever unless duly noted.

Why Your Marriage Goal Isn't Happening

Procrastinating Is Counterproductive

"Procrastination Is The Culprit"

 

Procrastination is the biggest dream killer of all times.  "Doers" make their dreams come true, procrastinators never realize their dreams because all we do is dream about the things we really want for our lives, but never take all of the necessary steps to bring them to fruition.

 

Notice I said we, because I too am guilty as charged.  I have had many successes in my life because I was a "doer", if I decided I wanted something, I took the steps to make it happen.  Consequently, I have few "what ifs" to reflect on for my life.

 

However, I've noticed the absence of that trait since I'm older, and the older I get, the more prevalent that trait is becoming and I don't like it!    Thus, I have decided to make a conscious effort to bring my dreams to fruition.  First - publish my book that I have been sitting on for the last three years. 

 

Secondly, find myself a good man and get married for the third and final time.  I don't want to live the remainder of my life without a loving husband and companion - so I'm not.  I must overcome this fear of failure that causes me to procrastinate, which ultimately kills my dreams, as well as the little voice in my head who feeds me excuses for not pursuing my dreams, i.e., you're too old, too this or too that!!!

 

So what about you, what's your excuse? Why haven't you been able to make your dream of becoming a happily married woman to the man of your dreams a reality?   Is it procrastination brought on by the fear that you can't make it happen?  Or, are you too lazy to do what you need to do to make this dream a reality?  Do you spend your time dreaming of being happily married rather than doing what you know you need to do to meet and marry your dream man?  Probably! 

 

Well I am here to tell you,  you can make this dream and any others you may have, a definite reality by breaking this  bad habit of 'procrastinating'.  You must stop dreaming about the life you want an start living it by become a "doer", and doing whatever it takes to bring your dreams to fruition.   Make this declaration to yourself today as I have!!!

 

So you're saying, "so how do I do that Ms. Edna"?  Like me, you simply stop dreaming and start doing.   We've been talking about the steps to take to meet and marry our dream man on this blog for years.  Those who jumped on the band wagon and took the necessary steps to fall in love with self, became the best woman they could be, then put themselves out there with an active and fulfilled life - found love and are now happily married to some awesome men.  

 

On the other hand, us 'procrastinators', are still sitting on the vine - dreaming of being happily married instead of living that dream.  Let's get it together ladies, it's now coming upon the end of another year, which will mark another year gone by that we didn't fulfill our dreams.  As you can clearly see - time waits on no one, so let's get busy fulfilling our dreams - not tomorrow - NOW!!!

 

Ms. Edna gives sound dating advice to single women. Advice, if followed, guarantees your success in creating a loving relationship with a GOOD man that results in marriage. Log onto msedna.blogspot.com daily and learn how to love yourself all the way to the altar! THIS BLOG IS COPYRIGHTED - ALL RIGHTS RESERVED © msedna.blogspot.com 2007-2012 Disclaimer: All images posted on this site are copyrighted by their respective owners. MsEdna.blogspot.com makes no claims of ownership or credit for these photos whatsoever unless duly noted.

Ms. Edna Is Blogging Again

Ms. Edna

"I'M BACK - MY HIATUS IS OVER"

It's been awhile since I've blogged, and I have really missed you guys.  However, I had to take some time out to assist with a family crisis, as one of my sisters had a stroke while I was on Hiatus in Oklahoma City.  At the onset, she needed 24/7 care, so I  remained here to take care of her.

 

Any who  - now that the dust has settled,  I'm ready to start blogging/coaching again to assist you guys in establishing loving relationships, with good guys, that will lead to some happy marriages.

 

My book is still in the works, it's complete and ready to go to press - thus I will be bringing it to you in the very near future - either as an e-book or hard cover.  I'm leaning toward hard cover.  Personally, I am not that fond of e-books.

 

I would also like to take this opportunity to thank all of you for showing me so much love while I took a break from blogging - your kind and encouraging words from virtually all over the world will never be forgotten and forever cherished.

 

See you tomorrow with a brand new post!!! By the way, I was asked to give an interview by datingwebsite.com of which I graciously accepted - check it out http://www.datingwebsite.com/blog/2012/an-interview-with-edna-hill-dating-coach-for-marriage-minded-women/.

Ms. Edna gives sound dating advice to single women. Advice, if followed, guarantees your success in creating a loving relationship with a GOOD man that results in marriage. Log onto msedna.blogspot.com daily and learn how to love yourself all the way to the altar! THIS BLOG IS COPYRIGHTED - ALL RIGHTS RESERVED © msedna.blogspot.com 2007-2012 Disclaimer: All images posted on this site are copyrighted by their respective owners. MsEdna.blogspot.com makes no claims of ownership or credit for these photos whatsoever unless duly noted.

KIM KARDASHIAN BUYS KANYE A $750,000 CAR - WHAT A SHAME!

 "My Heart Aches For Her"

Did any of you watch Oprah's interview of the Kardashians on Own Network this weekend?  I did as I wanted to see what Kim Kardashian had to say about becoming involved with Kanye West.  

Obviously Kim needs to stop going from one relationship to the next, take a break and figure out who she really is and the type of man that will compliment her.  Kim is typical of many women who don't have a clue who they are and the basic traits they should look for in a mate.  Trust me - we've all been there, she doesn't hold a patent on this behavior.  

Therefore, look back on your own life before you start judging her - I had to do the same as I have critically judged her in the past.  I haven't made a sex a tape - but I have made my fair share of stupid mistakes with men; all of us have.  However, self-evaluation, realizing my self-worth, and truly loving myself has been my saving grace and redemption.

Unfortunately, until Kim and other women like her, fall madly in love with self first and foremost, they will continue to exploit themselves as they jump from one undeserving man and one undeserving bed to the next.  I honestly feel so sorry for her because she is a beautiful young woman who has yet to learn how to really, really love and protect herself.  

If and when Kim finally does this, the focus will be on her.  Then and only  then will she get the type of deserving man she really needs and must have. When this transformation occurs, she will be successful in the true sense of the word with a GOOD man of INTEGRITY on her arm who realizes he is a lucky SOB to have her.  To date none of her boyfriends have fit this description.

Kim also admitted to buying Kanye a $750,000 Lamborghini for his birthday.  At that point my heart cracked for her.   Yet another example of her poor dating skills, not loving herself or realizing her worth.  Ladies, a gift of this magnitude should only be given to a husband and never a boyfriend.  It's not the money, as she can buy Lamborghini's 10 times over any day of the week, it's the principle.  What was she thinking?  Doesn't she know she is more than enough and no amount of money, gift or thing suffices for the fact that he can call Kim Kardashian his girl? OBVIOUSLY NOT!!!

Did you watch?  What were your thoughts?

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HOW TO FALL MADLY IN LOVE WITH YOURSELF

 "It's Easier Than You Think"

You must start by setting high standards for yourself and never, ever allow anyone to compromise those standards especially yourself.  Consider yourself too good to live a substandard life or to allow  substandard people into your life.  

Always treat yourself with loving kindness and respect - basically like the royalty you are.  Protect and take excellent care of your mind, body, heart, soul, and reputation. When you love yourself you are happier and getting your needs met is a priority.

Focus on all of the things that you love about yourself and correct those things that compromise the high standards you have set. Treat yourself like your little girl, your little Princes that you adore, protect, and love unconditionally.  Dress her up every time you leave the house, treat her with respect, lovingly provide her with the best of everything you can afford, and protect her relentlessly.  This is how you fall madly in love with yourself!!!

Ms. Edna gives sound dating advice to single women. Advice, if followed, guarantees your success in creating a loving relationship with a GOOD man that results in marriage. Log onto msedna.blogspot.com daily and learn how to love yourself all the way to the altar! THIS BLOG IS COPYRIGHTED - ALL RIGHTS RESERVED © msedna.blogspot.com 2007-2012 Disclaimer: All images posted on this site are copyrighted by their respective owners. MsEdna.blogspot.com makes no claims of ownership or credit for these photos whatsoever unless duly noted.

SINGLE WOMEN & STRIP CLUBS

A Strip Club Stripper

 Are They Straight or Lesbian?

When I first heard of women frequenting strip clubs several years back I was dumbfounded.  For the life of me I couldn't figure out why a straight woman would go to a strip club, so I assumed those who did were Lesbians.   Boy was I wrong!

This weekend I was with a group of women of all ages in a business setting.  At the end of our meeting, one of the younger women suggested we end the evening at a strip club.  Lo and behold, all but a few of us were gong ho on the idea.   When I asked why would straight women want to go to a strip club and watch naked women gyrate seductively, the response was split between "to study their moves", and "because that's where all of the men are."

My first response was - "why would you all want to meet men who hang out in strip clubs?"  Secondly, you are admiring strippers and want to emulate them - really?  The conversations that followed served to remind me of how foolish some women can be when it comes to men. No thought whatsoever is put into the caliber of men one sets out to meet, and reducing ones self to the likes of strippers just to please a man.

I mean seriously - some women really have lost their damn minds!!!

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TRYING TO ANTICIPATE & MEET HIS EVERY NEED DESTROYS HIS MOTIVATION TO MARRY YOU!

If  It's His Idea - Men Love Doing For The Women They Love

 "Men Are Logical Creatures - Marriage Has To Make Sense"

In talking to women, particularly young women between the ages of 25-35, I have noticed a tendency for this group of women to bend over backwards to please and meet the every need of their boyfriends.  They think they are just being good girlfriends when in essence they are literally destroying the relationship and their chance for becoming his wife.

One area in particular is the tendency to make being in a relationship with them easy and convenient.  They don't like or want to be a burden on their boyfriends, and the general consensus is that they are just being considerate and kind. Big- Huge Mistake!!!

I have no idea why these women underestimate the ability of men to figure out problems when they encounter them.  There is no need to meet him half-way for dates if you live far apart from one another.  Aren't you worth the drive?  Don't you know that a man who really wants to be with you will gladly do whatever it takes to see you without an ounce of resentment. And, as he falls more in love with you, he will recognize this long-distance as a problem and will figure out that maybe he needs to marry you to eliminate the problem.

Then their is the dutch dating or worse, not allowing the boyfriend to take you out because you are watching his pocketbook and saving him money.  And let's not forget, the big move-in for his financial convenience. After all, you wouldn't dream of being a burden on him and causing him financial difficulties because he has to spend his hard-earned money on you.  Not to mention having to pay his own rent when he could move-in with you or you with him to survive these hard economical times. If he loves you ladies, his solution to these problems will be marriage.

Consequently, my advice to those of you no matter your age who fall prey to this 'DISEASE TO PLEASE', don't assume the role of wife with boyfriends.  Stay in your lane, he's a big boy that has the ability to figure out his own problems without you mommying him.  If he's not - do you really need a little boy to raise?  You might want to rethink the situation.  

Also, know that the more a man invests in you, the better he likes it and more invested he becomes.  Therefore, get out of your own way and know that men are logical creatures.  Before they make significant changes in their lives, it has to make sense to them - and that includes marriage.  If marriage won't make a significant difference in the relationship he has with you - then why should he fix what isn't broken?  Makes perfectly good sense to me.  Why buy the cow when he is already getting all of the milk he wants or needs for FREE?

I won't even get into the sexual aspect of these boyfriend-girlfriend relationships, as that is a whole new show.  So tell me what you think about this post - do you recognize yourself and/or can you see the logic in this?

Ms. Edna gives sound dating advice to single women. Advice, if followed, guarantees your success in creating a loving relationship with a GOOD man that results in marriage. Log onto msedna.blogspot.com daily and learn how to love yourself all the way to the altar! THIS BLOG IS COPYRIGHTED - ALL RIGHTS RESERVED © msedna.blogspot.com 2007-2012 Disclaimer: All images posted on this site are copyrighted by their respective owners. MsEdna.blogspot.com makes no claims of ownership or credit for these photos whatsoever unless duly noted.