Monday, January 26, 2015

BUILD YOUR SELF CONFIDENCE!

"Get All Dolled Up" 

One of the quickest ways that I know of for us women to build our  self-confidence instantly - is getting all dolled up.  Why?  Because it is a well-known fact that when we look good, we feel good about ourselves.

Not only do we feel good when we look good; when we go that extra mile and get all glammed/dolled up, we don't just look good, but drop dead gorgeous.    Now that's a confidence booster for sure!  Better yet, a self-confident woman is a head turner.  She turns the admiring and/or jealous heads of both men and women alike.  

Be aware, that the more confident you become, the better you look, and the better you like and feel good about yourself, you will attract haters.  As Taylor Swift says, "the haters are going to hate, hate, hate, but I'm gonna shake, shake, shake it off".  

Therefore ladies, let your haters be your motivator, knowing that their hate comes from being jealous that you possess something they wish they had, and actually believe they can't achieve.
Ladies let's do all within our power to become as confident as humanly possible and the best we can be.  Looking good and carrying ourselves with dignity, pride and self-respect are two (2) very important steps towards that goal.


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Friday, January 23, 2015

IS IT LOVE OR SEXUAL EXPLOITATION?

 "We Must Learn The Difference and Pass This Knowledge On To Our Off-Springs"


 For eons, men have been exploiting women sexually, as well as our off spring by pretending to be in love with us.  Unfortunately, we have fallen for this very deceptive facade hook, line and sinker.  They tell women what they know we want to hear and that is, that we are loved or liked a great deal.  Our being desperate for love -  go for it.  Not only that, sexual deviants groom our children in much the same manner.

Many children unsuspectingly believe that these low-life's want to have sex with them because they like or love them so much.  Totally unaware, that they are being exploited.  We must school ourselves as well as our children to the contrary, so that all concerned will know when we are being sexually exploited for the sole purpose of the predators personal gain only.  This sexual exploitation leaves both adults and children scarred and traumatized.  In children, usually for a lifetime. 

We all must grasp that true love is given freely with no requirements whatsoever, especially sexually.  Not only that, we all must become aware that absolutely nothing is owed to those who like or love us, we receive love because we are deserving of being loved.  Also, to recognize that the predator's interest is anything but genuine, they profess love or genuine interest only to exploit.

Thus, when a man shows an interest in you, don't automatically assume it is because he really likes you and wants a relationship.  Take your time, observe, look and listen to determine his true motive.  If it is purely sexual, you should be able to spot this right away, as he won't wait very long before going in for the kill.  Some are sharper than others and will wine and dine in order to convince you that his intentions are honorable.  When he is really wearing you down to get you to want to get into bed with him. 

Ladies, we have got to start taking better care of ourselves and our children.  How?  By ceasing to be so gullible when it comes to men and their perceived genuine interest in us.  Learn to spot players and/or perverts by their actions, friends, reputation and smooth talk.  

Contrary to popular belief, true colors are hard to cover up.  These men are not that slick, we are just easily deceived because we want to be liked or loved too badly.  Also, beware of the guy who wants to spend time alone with your child, it is not normal behavior and the prime tactic of child molesters.   

Normal grown men don't want to spend their free time with kids - not even their own.   So beware of a man who is always trying to spend time alone with you child.  And, for GOD-SAKE, stop using men as babysitters.  Ask yourself?  "Why the hell does a grown ass man want to baby sit"?
 
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Wednesday, January 21, 2015

SMART WOMEN - POOR CHOICES


"What's Our Weakness? Unequivocally - Men"

Let's just be honest and face this cold-hearted truth. Women have a self-indulgent and special fondness for men that causes many of us to behave stupidly and make poor choices in our selection of men, and poor relationship choices once in a relationship. 

We make poor choices in men, and stupid dating and relationship decisions due primarily to our desperate attempts to have a special man in our lives, and not giving any thought whatsoever to what we really need and want from a relationship as well as the men we chose to get involved with.  Once we grasp these facts as truth, half the battle is won.  Therefore, our job is to bring this weakness for men under control, and finally find peaceful harmony with a high quality male.

I encounter intelligent and successful women all the time,  who behave totally stupid when it comes to men.  Somehow all of those smarts and common sense float right out of the window when these otherwise intelligent and successful women become involved with a man.  So sad, but oh so true!!!  This weakness has to be nipped in the bud ladies - quick and in a hurry.

All we really want from the men we chose to love is their love, affection, attention, honesty, integrity, and loyalty.  As well as a deep appreciation and admiration for our own dignity, pride, self-love, and self-respect. If a man doesn't possess these qualities and have this appreciation, we must keep it moving ladies and find another man to love who does.  Too often we fail to notice if a man has these characteristics, and focus instead on external qualities like physical appearance, and physical attraction, etc.  Big, huge mistake - not to mention shallow.

I've said it 1000's of times, and I will say it 1000's more. "There is not a thing in the world wrong with wanting a man in our lives.  What is wrong however, is wanting one so badly we willingly sacrifice common sense, dignity, pride and self-respect in desperate attempts to win their love and affection".

OK, so men is our weakness, so what?  We all have weaknesses and more than one.  The key is to recognize our weaknesses and take the necessary steps to bring them under our control.  In this instance - men! 

We must stop being fools for men and their love, and cease immediately behaving like sluts and doormats trying to win their love and affection. Break all of those stupid, and ineffective dating habits and relationships habits while taking control of this weakness, disease to please, and your life.  You know instinctively what is right and wrong.  Know that we are the prize, and we don't have to lower our morals and standards in order to draw a good man into our lives. 

All we have to do is behave like a lady who possesses dignity, pride, and a whole lot of self-love and self-respect.  So hold your head up high, and wait for a worthy man of integrity and honorable character to win your love and affection.  We are well worth his efforts, and don't let anyone convince you otherwise. 

It is so honorable and pleasurable behaving like a lady.  Try it, I promise you will love it!!!  Carrying ourselves with dignity, pride and self-respect is key to overcoming this weakness towards men.  You can do this, I did it and so can you, and now I am no longer afraid of men or becoming involved with one. NOW I'm in control, because I have an abundance of dignity, pride, self-love, and self-respect!

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Monday, January 19, 2015

SMART DATING RULE #1


“Pay Close Attention To His Character, Behavior & Life Goals”
  
A man's character can literally make or break your life. No one ever told me how important this rule is when selecting men to date that could possibly become my husband. In fact, while dating and marrying twice, I never gave character, behavior, or common life goals a second thought; they never even crossed my mind. 

WOW! Was I foolish or what? However, you don't have to be as foolish as I was, which is why I am writing this post; to give you some insight into how to carefully select the men you date, to increase your chances of being happily married to a good man for your lifetime. By so doing, you will avoid heartache and pain down the road.

Common life goals, high moral values, good character, integrity, honesty, and loyalty are extremely important characteristics to seek in men you date as potential husbands. Basically, the both of you must be good and honorable people for the relationship to have high odds of succeeding. Without these traits on either side, the marriage is doomed before it ever gets started. Trust me on this one, I'm speaking from experience.

Common life goals are important because it will keep the two of you on the same page in terms of what you both want out of your lives together.   

High moral values are equally important, as a man with high moral values, especially when it comes to sex and ethical conduct, will stand up for what is right with good character rather than giving into vulgarity and wrongful conduct.   

Integrity, honesty and loyalty rank high on the list for traits to look out for in choosing a mate.  If one has integrity they will stand firmly by their moral and ethical principles.  Honesty, can't be beat as no one likes a liar, a person who will lie rather than take responsibility and own up to their own actions.  A man who possesses loyalty will be faithful to his commitment, obligations and marriage vows to you.

Since starting this blog, I have discovered that a lot of men see absolutely nothing wrong with cheating in relationships or marriage, and many are sexual perverts/deviants.  They actually believe it is their prerogative to have sex with whomever they please, where they please, and when they please.  Which could include, your best friend, your relative, or even one of your children or their very own children.  

This is the dark and ugly side of life in our society that no one likes to talk about.  However, in actuality it is a daily occurrence in our society; just listen to the news.  One (1) in five (5) women and, One (1) in twenty (20) men are sexually molested as children.  I was one of them, and, in more cases than not, by a family member or a close family friend.  Is this the type of man you want to marry?  Of course not.  

This is why observing the behavior, moral values, and character of the men we decide to date as a potential lifelong partner, must be observed with a very discerning eye.  Not only for our happiness, but for the protection and safety of our babies.

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Friday, January 16, 2015

INSPIRING QUOTES FOR 2015

I love these quotes, they empower us to recognize that we are not the needy creatures that society portrays us to be, or that we behave like.

Again, society teaches women that it is selfish to love and take care of ourselves first and foremost.  This quote totally contradicts that theory, and empowers us to make our own happiness top priority in our lives.  Love It!!!



We must learn to enjoy our lives where we are right now, knowing that GOD will bless us with the love of our lives when the time is right.  We can't hurry love as this quote indicates.  When we try, it's always disastrous.


 No one can make changes in our lives except me, myself and I!!!

Slow Down, Take Your Time & Do It Right This Time Around!



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Wednesday, January 14, 2015

CHOOSE YOUR FRIENDS LIKE YOU CHOOSE YOUR MEN

 
"Very Carefully"

We must all learn to be very selective when it comes to choosing our friends, as well as the men we choose to date. Both are like elevators, they will either take us up or take us down. http://www.huffingtonpost.com/stacia-pierce/11-secrets-to-choosing-th_b_6038658.html

In our quest to be the best we can be and meet the one, we must enrich our lives as single women.  Look great, feel great, and enjoy our lives while waiting on love.  Thus, our friendships become an integral part of this journey. 

Not too long ago, I had an associate who is well over 50, confide in me that all of her friends were single because they were 'whores'.  After talking with her further, I learned that she was also, as her behavior with men was exactly like that of the friends she described as whores.  There is truth to the old adage, "Birds Of A Feather, Flock Together".  

It's a fact - people with the same morals, habits, and values, tend to group and hangout together.  Thus, we must become cognizant of the fact that the friends we choose are a direct reflection of our own character, and people will judge us according to the actions of our friends.  

None of us want an awesome guy to be turned off from us based upon the behavior of our friends.  So, we have to upgrade ourselves, as well as our friends to women who have higher goals, aspirations, and moral values. 

This is not so much with men.  With men, we tend to choose the wrong type of men to date knowing deep down they are not it.  However, we tend to move forward with these losers out of desperation and/or over-zealousness to have a man to love and be loved by, hoping to transform them into the type of men that we really want and need.  

This is precisely why it is so important that we learn to love ourselves first and foremost and strive to be the best we can be as well as a 'great catch' ourselves.  Then we will stop settling and making all of these foolish mistakes; not only with men, but with the friends we choose to hang out with.

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Monday, January 12, 2015

Are You You The Great Catch You Long For?

 
If Not – Become One”

I am truly amazed when I talk to women who are desperately seeking a totally awesome guy, when they themselves are sub-par. I can't understand what makes sub-par women actually believe they are equipped to catch a totally awesome guy. Don't they know that he has high standards and preferences also?

Confidence is key to attracting and catching an awesome guy, and that is derived from loving yourself unconditionally, while being fully aware that no one is perfect including YOU! It also entails standing firmly by your convictions, and becoming the best YOU possible. All of these things make you an awesome catch as well. Along with this comes the attitude that you are something kinda special.

It has only been recently that I realized that I have never had a problem getting proposals of marriage is because I am a 'great catch'. I am an excellent homemaker, i.e., I love to cook, I love a clean, beautiful and organized home. I'm resourceful, have great work ethics, well-groomed, weight conscious, compassionate, loving, caring, affectionate, fun-loving, loyal, family oriented, and I have high moral values. WOW – who wouldn't want to marry me? 

None of this is  to say I don't have faults, of course I do because I am not perfect – I am a normal human being with my fair share of faults. However, my good traits far out weigh the bad ones. My problem in being a 'great catch' has been poor choices in men, and not selecting guys who were also 'great catches'.

I want you to take the time right now to determine if you are a great catch. Don't focus on your faults, this exercise is about your good qualities. So brag on yourself, and if you aren't satisfied that you are a 'great catch', make some changes. Become the 'great catch' that you are seeking, and that you know you want and can be!!!

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Friday, January 9, 2015

BECOME A 'CLASSY LADY'!

"NOW THAT'S A CLASSY WAY OF THINKING"
"Know That Money  Can't Buy You Class"

A real classy lady never compromises her values and standards to please anyone.  She lives steadfastly according to her own rules and principles.  

In order to become a 'classy lady', you must be bound and determined to be a classy lady, and diligent about learning and practicing the basic characteristics thereof, while maintaining high standards about yourself.  

Opting to be a 'classy lady' is a real self-esteem booster in more ways than one, as well as being a magnet for all of those quality men out there who are in search of a 'classy lady' to love, be loved by, and make their wife.   These type of men don't want or respect women who exhibit low moral standards.  They definitely prefer and seek out decent women with high morals.  More importantly, women of this character feel really good about themselves knowing they are admired and highly respected by virtually everyone.

Therefore ladies, make becoming a 'classy lady' top priority for 2015.  Just imagine how good you are going to feel once you are revered for this highly honorable quality.  We can do this girlfriends, so let's go for it!   http://www.wikihow.com/Be-a-Classy-Lady
  
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Wednesday, January 7, 2015

STOP LONGING FOR MR. PERFECT!

"Long Instead 'For Mr. Good Enough
For Me'  As Perfection Is Non-Existent"




This is not settling, it's being realistic in the fact that no one and nothing is perfect.  Mr. Perfect does not exist, unless of course his name is JESUS CHRIST.  When you strive for perfection, you set yourself up for failure, dissatisfaction and disappointment, as perfection in our world does not exist.  

When I refer to Mr. Good Enough For Me, I'm not talking a man who is less than what you need, want and must have in a partner.  I am talking a man who is the ideal partner for you.  I've found that the right man for any of us, is when we first determine what it is we want and don't want in a partner and sticking to this guideline no matter what.  

It's all about how he makes you feel. Does he make you feel good about yourself and you him? Does he enhance your happiness?  Does he share your same values? Do you make sacrifices for each other? Is he proud of you and you him?  Does he love you as is and you him?  Does he treat you with respect and kindness and you likewise?  Lastly, do you feel secure in the fact that he has your back and you are a top priority in his life, and vice versa?

These characteristics are as close to a perfect relationship as it gets, in my opinion.  Feel free to add your own needs and must haves.

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Monday, January 5, 2015

DATE WITH DIGNITY, PRIDE & SELF-RESPECT!


"It's Easy To Do, As Well As Very Effective"

The reason why I write about falling madly in love with YOURSELF, dignity, pride and self-respect so often, and have written an entire book around it, is because it  made my own life so much richer, happier, and fuller. I want the exact same for you – my readers!

If your goal is to meet a good man, date, mutually fall in love, form a monogamous relationship, and then get married, carrying  yourself with dignity, pride and self-respect through the entire process is the only way to go.

Unfortunately, many single women have forfeited dignity, pride and self-respect in their unsuccessful desperate attempts to meet and marry a good man.  Sheer desperation, it is so sad and depressing.  

Thank GOD, it is never too late to make a change!  And, know that no changes will occur until YOU make some changes.  You must stop sleeping with men without a commitment, men who don't honor love and cherish you, and you them.  The list goes on and on, I will just list a few changes that will ensure your success in the dating game:
  
  • Stop sleeping with men, hoping to evoke his love. 
  • Stop sleeping with men without mutual love and commitment.  
  • Be selective in the men you date.
  • Stop dating married men.
  • Stop dating unsavory types hoping to change them.
  • Stop chasing men.
  • Stop looking for love and let love find you.
  • Enjoy being single.
  • Totally upgrade yourself.
  • Fall madly in love with YOU.
  • Respect yourself.
  • Think dignity, pride & self-respect in everything you do.   
  • Know that you are too good to do and participate in certain things.
  • Make having fun on dates, your only objective.
I assure you that conducting yourself in this matter will set the stage as to how others treat you.  People treat us the way that we treat ourselves.  If you love you, respect yourself, and are good to yourself, others will follow suit.

Remember, there is absolutely nothing wrong with wanting to be loved and married.  However, there is everything wrong with wanting it so badly, you sacrifice dignity, pride and self-respect in an attempt to have it.

Please, just strive to be the best possible YOU in all aspects of your life, enjoy the results and live your single life to the fullest with dignity, pride and self-respect.  It's a wonderful life - trust me, I was living it before Mr. Arthritis crippled me and took my life away.  But, never fear, I'm working daily on overcoming and regaining my wonderful life.

Dignity - the state or quality of being worthy of honor and respect. A woman of dignity and unbending principle, a composed, serious manner, and style. A sense of pride in oneself; self-respect. 

Pride - a high opinion of one's own dignity and character. Proud of who we are or of whom we have become. 

Self-respect- pride and confidence in oneself; a feeling that one is behaving with honor and dignity. 

“Don’t rely on someone else for your happiness and self-worth. Only you can be responsible for that. If you can’t love and respect yourself – no one else will be able to make that happen. Accept who you are completely; the good, the bad, and the ugly – and make changes as YOU see fit – not because you think someone else wants you to be different.”…....Stacey Charter

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