Monday, March 30, 2015

PUT YOURSELF IN THE DATING DRIVERS SEAT & ENJOY THE RIDE!

"Adapting To A Lifestyle of Dignity, Pride & Self-Respect Is Key"

Ladies! You don't have to be door-mats or man-pleasers in order to enjoy dating in your quest to find true love and a husband.  Just be friendly, fun to be with, interesting, interested, cordial, and self-loving.  And, as always, conduct yourself with dignity, pride and self-respect. 

Dignity is conducting yourself in a manner that is worthy of honor and respect from others

Pride is a feeling of deep pleasure or satisfaction derived from one's own achievements and qualities that are widely admired.

Self-Respect, is being proud of who you are, even with the mistakes you made in the past. It means looking yourself in the mirror and being proud of the person looking back at you. It means not compromising your values.

Ms. Edna gives sound dating advice to single women. Advice, if followed, guarantees your success in creating a loving relationship with a GOOD man that results in marriage. Log onto msedna.blogspot.com daily and learn how to love yourself all the way to the altar! THIS BLOG IS COPYRIGHTED - ALL RIGHTS RESERVED © msedna.blogspot.com 2007-2015 Disclaimer: All images posted on this site are copyrighted by their respective owners. MsEdna.blogspot.com makes no claims of ownership or credit for these photos whatsoever unless duly noted.

Tuesday, March 24, 2015

Don't Focus On Getting A Man To Fall In Love With You

"Focus On Falling In Love With Yourself"

I am so sick and tired of everybody and their brother encouraging women to be total fools for men.  Everywhere I look, there are headlines encouraging women to behave like fools in their quest to love, be loved, and married, i.e.:
  • How to get a man to fall in love with you.
  • How to please a man.
  • How to do this that or the other to get a man.
It is so insulting and embarrassing.  They are all playing on our incessant desire to love and be loved, for their own personal financial gain.  Worse, women are falling for these tactics hook, line and sinker, and behaving stupidly for love.  First of all, you don't have to resort to losing your dignity or playing games to evoke love from anyone.  

All you have to be is your dignified, prideful, self-respecting, confident, and fabulous self. All of which comes about naturally once you fall head over hills in love with YOU.  Then you won't have to fall for all of these insane tactics for finding love, as your new attitude will be, "Why wouldn't any man want to fall in love with me, I'm all that and a bag of chips"?

Ladies, take back your dignity, pride, and self-respect while seeking love, by loving yourself first and foremost. I promise that once you do, everything else will fall into place; namely your happiness whether you are coupled up or happily single!

Ms. Edna gives sound dating advice to single women. Advice, if followed, guarantees your success in creating a loving relationship with a GOOD man that results in marriage. Log onto msedna.blogspot.com daily and learn how to love yourself all the way to the altar! THIS BLOG IS COPYRIGHTED - ALL RIGHTS RESERVED © msedna.blogspot.com 2007-2015 Disclaimer: All images posted on this site are copyrighted by their respective owners. MsEdna.blogspot.com makes no claims of ownership or credit for these photos whatsoever unless duly noted.

Tuesday, March 10, 2015

DISCARD THE DISEASE TO PLEASE

"It's Hindering Your Success In Love Relationships"

Unfortunately some women actually believe that pleasing men, particularly in bed, is how they win their love and affection.  These are women who confuse love with pleasing, and nothing could be further from the truth.  

This desire to please, especially with men, causes us to make poor choices in men, and poor decisions.  Decisions that wreak havoc on relationships, as people don't like or respect those who put the needs of others before their own.  That's not to say that men won't take full advantage of this weakness, but it certainly doesn't evoke their respect, much less their love.

Personally, I equate people pleasers to control freaks.  People who use pleasing others as a tactic to control and get them to do what they want.  Either way, both are ineffective tools in gaining true love and affection from another.  Therefore, if you have these tendencies, you will have to discard them in your search for true love and affection.

Ms. Edna gives sound dating advice to single women. Advice, if followed, guarantees your success in creating a loving relationship with a GOOD man that results in marriage. Log onto msedna.blogspot.com daily and learn how to love yourself all the way to the altar! THIS BLOG IS COPYRIGHTED - ALL RIGHTS RESERVED © msedna.blogspot.com 2007-2015 Disclaimer: All images posted on this site are copyrighted by their respective owners. MsEdna.blogspot.com makes no claims of ownership or credit for these photos whatsoever unless duly noted.

Wednesday, February 25, 2015

HOW DO I MEET THE ONE?

“Easily & Patiently”

E-Mail From A Reader:
Ms. Edna, I am having a difficult time meeting men, and frustrated by the situation. What can I do to turn this situation around? Anonymous

To Anonymous and other women who are feeling her same frustrations:

First and foremost become the best YOU possible, by totally upgrading YOURSELF! Become the well groomed, well dressed, friendly, considerate, happy-go-lucky female that carries herself with dignity, pride and self-respect. The woman that all of us love, admire, respect and look up to, whether we are self-assured enough to admit it or not. 

Miraculously, this will build your self-confidence, and love of self. Once this happens, you will meet and greet all people, male and female alike with a sincere smile, and a friendly, jubilant hello (nothing more & nothing less).  People will automatically gravitate towards you, because you are approachable. Consequently, you will make many, many friends from both genders.  

However, be safe and beware of the weirdos', and don't give out your number to every guy who asks for it.  Only give it to those you genuinely feel will fit into your criteria once you get to know them better.  Always follow your gut about people, it never fails us.

Create a life for yourself that is enjoyable, self-fulfilling, busy, and satisfying. I can't stress this enough as this is the key to living happily single until the man of your dreams comes along and you get married. Mind you, I said until you get married, as this is the only time that a man will appreciate you making him top priority in your life.

Date in multiples, but only men that you admire, respect and look up to. As well as men who fit the criteria you have given careful consideration and outlined on paper.  Memorize the qualities that you must have in a mate to be happy and content. Continue dating in carefully selected multiples until the man of your dreams asked you to stop dating others, and enter into an exclusive relationship with him.

Living your single life in this manner, not only is satisfying, but gives you healthy choices in selecting the one who is right for you. 
Ms. Edna gives sound dating advice to single women. Advice, if followed, guarantees your success in creating a loving relationship with a GOOD man that results in marriage. Log onto msedna.blogspot.com daily and learn how to love yourself all the way to the altar! THIS BLOG IS COPYRIGHTED - ALL RIGHTS RESERVED © msedna.blogspot.com 2007-2015 Disclaimer: All images posted on this site are copyrighted by their respective owners. MsEdna.blogspot.com makes no claims of ownership or credit for these photos whatsoever unless duly noted.

Thursday, February 19, 2015

THE KEY TO BEING SUCCESSFUL IN LOVE & MARRIAGE

 "BUILD YOUR TRUE LOVE RELATIONSHIP ON A SOLID FOUNDATION"

If you do, your true love relationship and ultimate marriage, will stand firm when the enviable relationship catastrophes occur.  If your love foundation is not solid, your marriage will crumble like a house built without a foundation when a flood occurs.


Prepare to build a solid foundation when true love arrives by first determining exactly the type of man that you need and want in a marriage to be happy, content, and fulfilled.  Then, the hard part, only date men that fit easily into this criteria, as well as the type of men that you admire, respect and look-up to.

Next, allow men to take the lead in where the relationship will go.  Until your man of choice, the one you fall in love with, asks you to be his girl in an exclusive and monogamous relationship, continue to date other guys as you are not in a committed relationship as yet, and haven't been asked, you're dating.

More importantly, remember NO SEX while dating.  If you can wait until he puts a ring on it, which is preferred.  The next option is only when you are in a mutually loving  and exclusive relationship that appears in all likelihood to be headed toward marriage.  This is the way self-loving and self-respecting ladies do's it!!!

Ms. Edna gives sound dating advice to single women. Advice, if followed, guarantees your success in creating a loving relationship with a GOOD man that results in marriage. Log onto msedna.blogspot.com daily and learn how to love yourself all the way to the altar! THIS BLOG IS COPYRIGHTED - ALL RIGHTS RESERVED © msedna.blogspot.com 2007-2015 Disclaimer: All images posted on this site are copyrighted by their respective owners. MsEdna.blogspot.com makes no claims of ownership or credit for these photos whatsoever unless duly noted.

Tuesday, February 17, 2015

LIVING LIFE AS A HIGH MORALS FEMALE

"Means Looking In The Mirror With Pride & 
Loving You Some You"

In this day and age with indecent and immoral behavior being the norm, I realize how difficult it is for some of you to live a life of dignity, pride and self-respect.  However, you must, so you too can look in the mirror and feel pride and a deep love of self for being a woman who upholds high standards of decent behavior.

When you see female friends, family members, and celebrities exhibiting vulgar, lewd and indecent behavior, pat yourself on the back and thank GOD that you evolved into a better woman than that. 

I fail to understand why people uplift and worship celebrities who exhibit lewd and vulgar behavior.  Take Beyonce for instance, the only thing admirable about her in my opinion (and I have many), is her talent, bank account, and infinite beauty. 

However, that's it, I certainly don't admire her choice in a husband, ghetto manner, lewd song lyrics, or stage performances.  All of which she can easily change and still maintain her successful career, because she has exceptional talent.  That is, if she ever starts to recognize these things as mistakes she's made and do better. 

We must all become masters of our own learning, and celebrities are no exception.  Learning almost always comes about as a result of mistakes we make in our lives. Precisely why I refer to my mistakes as 'learning lessons'.  I am grateful for all of the mistakes that I have made in my lifetime, because they are the primary reason I have evolved into the woman that I am today.  As Oprah says, "when we know better, we do better".

Let's face it, we live in an immoral society in which people believe that anything is OK if the majority of the people are doing it, or choose to believe that it's right. However, we were all equipped with common sense and gut feelings that allows us to distinguish right from wrong. 

Right is right and wrong is wrong even when the entire world chooses to believe otherwise. Therefore ladies, let your gut feelings and common sense be your guide and never allow the opinions of society to overrule these feelings, as GOD installed them in us for a reason - our protection.
 
Ms. Edna gives sound dating advice to single women. Advice, if followed, guarantees your success in creating a loving relationship with a GOOD man that results in marriage. Log onto msedna.blogspot.com daily and learn how to love yourself all the way to the altar! THIS BLOG IS COPYRIGHTED - ALL RIGHTS RESERVED © msedna.blogspot.com 2007-2015 Disclaimer: All images posted on this site are copyrighted by their respective owners. MsEdna.blogspot.com makes no claims of ownership or credit for these photos whatsoever unless duly noted.

Friday, February 13, 2015

IF YOU ARE NOT IN A RELATIONSHIP ON VALENTINES DAY


 "WHAT NOT TO DO"

Don't Sit At Home Alone, Feeling Left Out & Sorry For Yourself - Get with your BFF and throw a sleepover party for your girlfriends who are also not in a relationship and celebrate the fact that you all are alone not lonely.  Why? Because you guys have evolved into happy go lucky single women who enjoy a rich and full single lifestyle to the fullest everyday - including Valentines Day.  

Eat, drink, be merry, and keep the conversations positive as you celebrate being self-loving women who proudly possess self-respecting, prideful and dignified qualities, with the patience to wait for your Mr. Right and not settle for Mr. Wrong.

Don't Hide Out In Shame - There is nothing shameful about being a single woman.  You are single because you don't allow yourself to be hoodwinked by losers or settle for lesser of a man than you want and deserve.  You are single because you have the common sense to wait patiently for the man who deserves a woman like you.  

So what is there to be ashamed of?  Be proud that you have developed into a happy single woman.  Therefore, put a smile on your face, get all dolled up, and throw that sleepover party for your unattached friends and have fun uplifting and celebrating each other for evolving into happily single women.

OUR MEDIA ENCOURAGES FEMALE DEGRADATION!



"WOW! IS THERE NO SHAME?"

Hannah Davis and Kim K-West are the latest women to be sexually exploited and degraded by the media, and who have sexually exploited and degraded themselves, as well as all women.  

It is apparent that these women and others like them, are so desperate for fame, fortune and/or adoration, they will do anything to achieve it, and be proud of the obscenity as long as it gets them the fame, fortune and public adoration they seek.  

I was watching an interview with Hannah Davis and was appalled at the way the show hosts applauded her and how proud she was of the photos, and the publicity and opportunities she was receiving as a result.  

Although I am appalled by the media and women like Hannah and Kim, I can't help but to feel exceptionally proud of myself for being a self-loving woman with tons of dignity, pride and self-respect. The type of woman that wouldn't dream of being pimped by the media or anyone for that matter, for fame, fortune or adoration.

I have to admit that I find it hard to believe that any woman in her right mind would be proud of this public nudity.  Or, that the general public applauds this behavior. What the hell are people thinking?

Wednesday, February 4, 2015

OWN UP TO YOUR DATING & RELATIONSHIP BLUNDERS


"It's So Easy To Blame Men, But So Detrimental To Your Growth"

On a regular basis I encounter women who have been hurt as a result of a horrific dating or relationship experience and, who take no responsibility whatsoever for these mishaps.

Ladies, it takes two to tangle.  He may have been the instigator or perpetrator in these various mishaps, but rarely are we innocent bystanders. We either turn a deaf ear and a blind eye to his faults, settle for less than what we want and deserve, think we can change him, engage in sex prematurely, or without love and a monogamous relationship, etc.  Rarely are we totally innocent in these situations.  

The choices are always ours in deciding how to react to mistreatment, our decisions, and the character of the men we encounter.  We all must learn to walk at the first signs of bad character, habits, addictions, mistreatment, and when a man's intentions, morals and values are totally contradictory to our own.

The problem with blaming and not accepting any responsibility, is that we can't learn from situations that we don't acknowledge our participation.  Mistakes are beneficial if we profit from them, learn better and vow to do better.  If we don't acknowledge that we made a mistake, we can't profit from them.  

So accept all of those foolish dating/relationship mishaps as learning experiences by acknowledging your mistakes in the matter. We have all been there, myself included. Carefully analyze each situation, and determine what you could have done differently in order to have avoided the situation and being hurt.  And, know that only fools continue making the same mistakes over and over again hoping and praying for different results.  Different and positive results only come about when we make positive and self-respecting changes in our own behavior.

Ms. Edna gives sound dating advice to single women. Advice, if followed, guarantees your success in creating a loving relationship with a GOOD man that results in marriage. Log onto msedna.blogspot.com daily and learn how to love yourself all the way to the altar! THIS BLOG IS COPYRIGHTED - ALL RIGHTS RESERVED © msedna.blogspot.com 2007-2015 Disclaimer: All images posted on this site are copyrighted by their respective owners. MsEdna.blogspot.com makes no claims of ownership or credit for these photos whatsoever unless duly noted.

Monday, February 2, 2015

DO YOU BEFORE SEEKING A HUSBAND!

"Get Yourself Together, Both Inside & Out"

Single women all over the world are looking for their own personal 'Mr. Right'.  That fabulous relationship with a high quality male that will last a lifetime.  

However, few of these same women are willing to put forth the time and effort to become the type of person they seek.  Sadly, this causes them to accept sub-standard men into their lives because they don't have what it takes to get the type of man that they really, really want.

Whether we will admit it or not, all women inherently know that high quality men have high standards for the type of women they will allow into their world, date, fall in love with, and marry.  In spite of this knowledge, most single women are too trifling or unmotivated to become that woman.  

Most choose instead to settle for the 'scrubs' they can get, or live in LaLa Land, choosing to believe that one day this great guy will miraculously show up and accept them as is.  Kind of like buying a used car when you can't afford the brand new one you really want.

Sorry to be the one to tell you, but it ain't gonna happen!  Why?  Because great guys don't have to settle for sub-standard women.  They know they are great catches and that they can have and hold a high-quality woman.  There are plenty of single women out here who aren't lazy, trifling and unmotivated.  

There are self-confident women out there with high morals and values, who work long, hard and diligently on a daily basis to be the best they can be for self-satisfaction as well as the type of woman who can get the type of men that they really, really want and deserve.  They wouldn't wipe their feet on some of the men that their less motivated counterparts are literally fighting over.

The solution is to get off your butts and become the type of person that you really, really want and deserve.  The type of woman you know deep in your heart of hearts that you secretly want to be!  Gather up the courage to be the best YOU possible in all aspects of your life.  Become that woman who can confidently select her future husband from the 'pick of the crop', rather than the 'bottom of the barrel'.  

Don't let this be the good advice you didn't take.

Ms. Edna gives sound dating advice to single women. Advice, if followed, guarantees your success in creating a loving relationship with a GOOD man that results in marriage. Log onto msedna.blogspot.com daily and learn how to love yourself all the way to the altar! THIS BLOG IS COPYRIGHTED - ALL RIGHTS RESERVED © msedna.blogspot.com 2007-2015 Disclaimer: All images posted on this site are copyrighted by their respective owners. MsEdna.blogspot.com makes no claims of ownership or credit for these photos whatsoever unless duly noted.

Wednesday, January 28, 2015

HOW TO SHOW UP ON DATES

"Self-Confident, Drop-Dead Gorgeous, Attentive & On Your Very Best Behavior"

Always and without exception, show up looking drop-dead gorgeous, show off your impeccable manners and demeanor, while lavishly spreading joy, respect and cheerfulness to virtually everyone you encounter. 

Do these things armed with the confidence and knowledge that you are the cream of the single crop, and a top-notch human being who is worthy of everyone's respect, admiration and adulation, including his. 

Don't try to impress him with your worldly accomplishments or possessions. Impress him naturally with your honorable character, manners, sweet disposition and off the charts confidence.

In addition, make having fun on the date your primary objective. Until you know who and what you are working with in him, don't waste energy trying to figure out if he is the one or not. That will come in due time, as you get to know each other, and observing him while spending time together and conversing with him in person and on the telephone.  Yes!  I said telephone - texting outside of a relationship is a NO-NO, not to mention childish.  Attaining your cell phone number should be a privilege, not a right.

I instruct my clients to only give out their land line number while in the dating stage and inform those to whom you give this number that it is not a cell phone.  This let's him know that he will have to man up and pick up a telephone in order to speak to you.  

Texting is a wonderful tool for staying connected to our love ones at any given time and no matter what we are doing.  It is not for casual acquaintances.  Why would you want casual acquaintances to be able to reach you anytime or anyplace?  Think about it.

Have fun and happy dating experiences that you can look back on with joy, and not despair once you land your real man and get married!  And, remember at all costs that dates are not boyfriends, merely males you have decided you would like to get to know better for a possible relationship by spending time together.
 
Ms. Edna gives sound dating advice to single women. Advice, if followed, guarantees your success in creating a loving relationship with a GOOD man that results in marriage. Log onto msedna.blogspot.com daily and learn how to love yourself all the way to the altar! THIS BLOG IS COPYRIGHTED - ALL RIGHTS RESERVED © msedna.blogspot.com 2007-2012 Disclaimer: All images posted on this site are copyrighted by their respective owners. MsEdna.blogspot.com makes no claims of ownership or credit for these photos whatsoever unless duly noted.