Monday, May 23, 2016

As Women We Love To Love & Be Loved

Daily, it becomes more and more apparent to me that the greatest need of women is love.  We need and seek to love and be loved.  Unfortunately, some of us are so desperate to receive the love of a man, we sacrifice our dignity, pride and self-respect to have it; usually with disastrous results. 

No good ever comes about when we relinquish these qualities, we lose respect for ourselves, and in turn, it causes men to lose respect for us.  Respect is at the core of a man’s true love for a woman; good men find it difficult to love women they don’t honor and respect.

Thus, we must keep love in it's proper perspective, and stop making it the end to all ends.  Don't get me wrong, there is not a thing wrong with wanting to be in love and loved in return.  What's wrong, is wanting it so badly you relinquish your dignity, pride, and self-respect in desperate attempts to make a man love you.   There is nothing in this world, worth that degrading sacrifice.  

This is yet another reason ladies why we must learn to love ourselves, before we get out there seeking love from another.


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Thursday, May 19, 2016

RAVEN SYMONE'S VIEW OF OUR DIVORCE EPIDEMIC


Thirty (30) year-old Raven Symone, in a discussion on the 'VIEW,' Wednesday, May 18, 2016, stated that divorce is prevalent in our society, because "we have not been taught how to choose the right person."  What a powerful statement and oh so true.  I agree with Raven wholeheartedly, and this has been my stance for years, based upon my own divorce experiences.  For a young woman, she is very knowledgeable of life situations; subsequently, I am a huge fan of her presence on the 'VIEW'.

Because of our massive divorce percentages, as well as my personal experience with divorce, I am constantly reminding my readers of the  importance of carefully selecting the men we choose to date, especially if the relationship evolves into marriage. In my upcoming book, I address this subject extensively.

Most women, myself included, select men to marry at too young of an age and/or prior to maturity.  In both instances, we don't even know who we are as a person, much less the type of mate that can satisfy our needs in a long-term relationship/marriage.

This is yet another reason why I harp on 'falling madly in love with yourself' prior to dating.  When you love yourself, you  know exactly who you are, your basic needs, and what you stand for. If we don't know who we are as a person, how can we expect to choose the type of mate that can fulfill our needs?

Unlike 30-year-old Raven, it took me two divorces and the ripe old age  of 45, to learn these very valuable life lessons.  Which is precisely why I started this blog, so I could teach women the lessons I unfortunately, learned the hard way - through experience.  So listen up ladies, take my advice, and spare yourself the pain and agony of choosing the wrong mate.

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Monday, April 25, 2016

ARE YOU SINGLE, JEALOUS & LEADING A MISERABLE LIFE?


 "If So, I'm Here To Help You Come To Your Senses"


Jealousy of couples and humiliation over not having a man of your own, causes a painful loss of dignity, pride, and self-respect.  Loss of these qualities in women, almost always result in degrading ways of thinking for women.  In other words they resort to lowering their standards significantly in order to get any man they can, and in any way they can.  They exhibit behavior that is totally void of high standards in their selection of men, as well as their behavior in how they go about getting one. 

You can avoid this from happening, by vowing to yourself,  "I'm going to always enjoy a rich and fulfilling life, with or without a man".  You can do this easily once you become the best YOU possible both inside and out, fall madly in love with yourself, establish some high standards about yourself, and set them in stone.  Last but certainly not least - get a life.  Build a rich and fulfilling life for yourself that you love and enjoy (socially, civically & politically), surrounded by new and old friends alike.  

Successfully accomplish all of these things, and you'll become a 'male magnet,' for you've become a 'great catch'.  You're friendly, outgoing, confident, busy and, you look drop dead gorgeous wherever you go!  Now, you qualify to select a mate from the 'pick of the crop,' rather than the 'bottom of the barrel.'


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Friday, April 22, 2016

TEEN GIRL LOSES HER LIFE OVER A BOY!


"Females Fighting Over Men - Totally Ludicrous"

A 15-year old girl died yesterday, after she hit her head on a bathroom sink while reportedly fighting over a boy in the girls bathroom of Howard High School, in Wilmington, Delaware.  My heart goes out to her parents who are having to deal with this senseless death of their child.

Unfortunately, females fighting over a male has been going on for eons.  It's a despicable history that expresses how 'stupid' some females can be when it comes to men. I have never understood this stupidity in women, and I've been a victim of this foolishness once as a teen when dating my first husband, and once as a young adult. 

If and when you are negatively approached by another female about your boyfriend - you need to kick his ass to the curb, quick and in a hurry.  The handwriting is clearly on the wall, the type of man you are dealing with.  I learned this lesson the hard way after marrying a known womanizer.

If another female approaches you in this regard, this should  be every females first clue, that the man in question is not the type of male you need in your life, and certainly not worth risking your safety with a stupid female who deals with his cheating by attacking you.  

When I divorced my first husband after a succession of affairs, the last with one specific woman.  When I met her after divorce, the both of them were in disbelief that I didn't have hard feelings towards her.  I let them know in no uncertain terms, that my anger was towards him the man I married who vowed to be faithful and true - not her. She, did me a favor, as she was the last straw for me.  In fact, I pitied her, because she was totally unaware that if he "does it with you, he will do it to you".
 
Ladies, don't get mad at the other woman, remove yourself from the situation, and have empathy for her and other women in his harem, because "they don't have themselves shit."
 
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Monday, April 11, 2016

Stop Behavior That Destroy Your Chances of Getting A Ring On It!



"To Not Just Any Guy, But a Great Guy"

The biggest mistake that even smart women make with men is assuming that sex for a man equates to love.  They really believe that sex is the way to a man's heart.  I think most women come to this conclusion, because of the reputation men carry for their love of sex. 

In spite of this ladies, please understand that just because men have a reputation for being overly sexual, you must realize that 'great guys', have no desire to have a 'slut' for a wife.  Therefore, uphold dignity, pride, and self-respect in your dealings with men - be they good or bad.  

Hopefully, you've outgrown settling for bad boys since learning to fall madly in love with yourself, first and foremost!  Consequently, you're now putting a great deal of love and a ton of value over your body.  And, you no longer have an interest in men that you can't admire, respect, and hold in high regard. 
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Wednesday, March 30, 2016

FRIENDS WITH BENEFITS IS JUST PLAIN STUPID FOR WOMEN!

 "This Type Of Relationship Only Benefits Men"
There is no getting around it, women who engage in 'friends with benefits' relationships are behaving stupidly.  Why would any woman with love of self, dignity, pride, and self-respect, settle for being a 'booty call'She wouldn't, it's those women lacking these qualities that settle for being a 'booty call' rather than an above-board relationship, where mutual deep feelings are shared. Therefore, don't get it twisted, 'friends with benefits', is nothing more than a 'booty call'; as the man you have allowed this privilege doesn't call you except to engage in sex.  

Most of the women, that engage in this type of relationship, do so hoping the object of her affection will return the deep feelings she has for him after engaging in sex.  These are women, who unfortunately, confuse sex with love.  Whether one believes it or not, it is very much so possible to have deep loving feelings for another, free of sex, be you male or female.

Once again ladies, you must stop saying 'YES' to what you don't want, and only say 'YES' to what you do want!  This can only occur once you 'fall madly in love with yourself,' and incorporate dignity, pride, and self-respect into all aspects of your lives.  Therefore, don't delay and get busy learning to love yourself and conducting yourself with dignity, pride, and self-respect.  Then, you can attract a high-quality guy, to establish a meaningful relationship with, that evolves into the loving marriage you are seeking.

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Monday, March 28, 2016

SHOW HIM THE SECURE YOU!

 "INSECURITY REEKS LOW SELF-ESTEEM"

Let's just keep it real, some women are "head turners," so striking, they literally turn the heads of both men and women alike.  Instead of displaying low self-esteem tactics by attacking the woman to your date and/or boyfriend, why not compliment her as well?  Say to him when a woman catches his attention, "isn't she beautiful?"    A statement such as this shows him that you are a secure woman, who loves, values, and accepts herself wholeheartedly.  

A self-loving woman who is not intimidated by the presence of any woman, be she beautiful or not.  This shows that you know and love who you are, and secure in the fact that few women can top the remarkable woman that you are - both inside and out.

This is not to say that you put up with a man who constantly looks at other women when he's with you.  If he's that type of guy, this is still no excuse for you to get angry with other women.  Kick his ass to the curb and find a man who is more respecting and appreciative of the woman that you are.

Once again, self-love saves the day.  It's a woman's protection, an awesome defense mechanism that protects us from degrading and stupid behavior, in addition to other things.

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Friday, March 25, 2016

HAPPY EASTER!



H A P P Y  E A S T E R

Best wishes for a wonderful Easter filled with sweet treats and
the joy of spring.






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Thursday, March 24, 2016

DATING & RELATIONSHIP RULES

 Effective Dating/Relationship
Ethics To Live By 
 
What exactly are ‘ethics?’  They are guidelines you have established for yourself in accordance with your moral values and ethical standards, to govern your behavior in various life circumstances.  


You can start the process of falling head over heels in love with yourself by setting high standards for yourself, and never, ever allowing anyone to compromise those standards; especially yourself.  Consider yourself too good to live a second-rate life, or to allow second-rate people into your life.  Remember, you can do and be anything you choose to be.         
DATING ETHICS
  1. I will not date married men, separated men, recently divorced men, men with girlfriends, or the exes of any of my girlfriends or family members.
  2. I will not date bad boys, ex-cons, alcoholics, drug addicts, porn addicts, or unethical men.
  3. I will only date men that I admire, respect, and look up to, and I'll never again settle for men undeserving of my admiration, respect and high regard.
  4. I will never again, turn a deaf ear and a blind eye to the unacceptable behavior and faults of men I date. 
  5. I will not engage in sex or heavy petting with men that I am merely dating.
  6. I will date multiple men who meet my criteria until I fall in love with one of them, and he with me and we mutually decide to commit to each other exclusively as boyfriend and girlfriend.
RELATIONSHIP ETHICS
  1. I will be a great girlfriend, but never a great wife until he puts a ring on it, and I'm actually a wife.   
  2.  I won’t engage in sex without marriage  OR, I won’t engage in sex outside of love, and a committed relationship (whichever is your choice).   
  3.  I will only perform fellatio on the man who marries me. 
  4.  I will only bear children for the man who marries me.   
  5.  I will only cohabit with the man who marries me.   
  6.  I will not remain in a committed relationship longer than 14 months, without a  marriage proposal, and a wedding date set soon thereafter.
You may consider these difficult decisions to live by, but once you fall in love with yourself and respect yourself, not only will they be easy to live by, but you will be  proud to stand by the high standards you've set for yourself.  Why?  Because you realize your worth and know, like you know, like you know that you're too good to lower your standards for anything or anyone!  A woman with no standards is a woman who lacks self-respect.  Remember, no man, be he good or bad, respects a woman who doesn't respect herself.
 
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Friday, March 18, 2016

Now Moreso Than Ever, We Must Select Men Carefully


"Bad Boys Are Rampant"


The world is loaded with unscrupulous men - just watch the news, and you'll see where these men are committing all sorts of crimes, e.g. rape, robberies, murders, child molestation, auto thefts, home invasions, etc. in record numbers.  It's really scary, so ladies beware, as these violent tendencies don't cease with these guys when it comes to their girlfriends and/or wives.

Take the time to determine the type of man you admire, respect and look up too, and only date men who meet that criterion.  It is getting to be too dangerous to ignore 'red flags' and/or 'gut feelings'.  As Oprah says, "when you see crazy, cross the street."  Seriously, your life could depend upon it, so choose men  to date very carefully and wisely.  Do a thorough assessment of their character prior to accepting that first date.

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